We need a saner picture of how many difficulties lie behind everything we would wish to emulate.
We should not look, for example, at the masterpieces of art in a museum.
We should go to the studio and there see the anguish, wrecked early versions and watermarks on the paper where the artist broke down and wept.
We should focus on how long it took the architect before they received their first proper commission (they were over 50) ,
we need to dig out the early stories of the writer who now wins prizes and examine more closely how many failures the entrepreneur had to endure.
We need to recognise the legitimate and necessary role of failure, allow ourselves to do things quite imperfectly for a very long time
as a price we cannot avoid paying for an opportunity one day, perhaps in many decades, to do something that others will consider a spontaneous success.