defined as a powerful attraction to perfection shorn of any mature or sufficient understanding of what is required to attain it.
It isn’t primarily our fault.
Without in any way revealing this, or even perhaps being aware of it,
our media edits out billions of unremarkable lives and years of failure, rejection and frustration even in those who do achieve
in order to serve us up a daily curated selection of peak career moments, which thereby end up seeming not like the violent exceptions they actually are,
but a norm and baseline of achievement.
It starts to appear as though "everyone" is successful because all those who we happen to hear about really are successes
and we have forgotten to imagine the oceans of tears and despair that necessarily surround them.
Our perspective is imbalanced because we know our own struggles so well from the inside,
and yet are exposed to apparently pain-free narratives of achievement on the outside.
We cannot forgive ourselves the horrors of our early drafts – largely because we have not seen the early drafts of those we admire.