The claim that he was enjoying spending more time with his family was not convincing.
He was never destined to win a Father of the Year trophy, even when he had spare time on his hands.
He was getting better at paying heed to his children, especially Reed, but his primary focus was on his work.
He was frequently aloof from his two younger daughters, estranged again from Lisa, and often prickly as a husband.
So what was the real reason for his hesitancy in taking over at Apple?
For all of his willfulness and insatiable desire to control things,
Jobs was indecisive and reticent when he felt unsure about something.
He craved perfection, and he was not always good at figuring out how to settle for something less.
He did not like to wrestle with complexity or make accommodations.
This was true in products, design, and furnishings for the house.
It was also true when it came to personal commitments.
If he knew for sure a course of action was right, he was unstoppable.
But if he had doubts, he sometimes withdrew, preferring not to think about things that did not perfectly suit him.
As happened when Amelio had asked him what role he wanted to play,
Jobs would go silent and ignore situations that made him uncomfortable.