No. Almost the opposite. He was very emotionally attuned,
able to read people and know their psychological strengths and vulnerabilities.
He could stun an unsuspecting victim with an emotional towel-snap, perfectly aimed.
He intuitively knew when someone was faking it or truly knew something.
This made him masterful at cajoling, stroking, persuading, flattering, and intimidating people.
"He had the uncanny capacity to know exactly what your weak point is,
know what will make you feel small, to make you cringe," Joanna Hoffman said.
"It's a common trait in people who are charismatic and know how to manipulate people.
Knowing that he can crush you makes you feel weakened and eager for his approval,
so then he can elevate you and put you on a pedestal and own you."
There were some upsides to Jobs's demanding and wounding behavior.
People who were not crushed ended up being stronger.
They did better work, out of both fear and an eagerness to please.
"His behavior can be emotionally draining, but if you survive, it works," Hoffman said.
You could also push back—sometimes—and not only survive but thrive.
That didn't always work; Raskin tried it, succeeded for a while, and then was destroyed.
But if you were calmly confident, if Jobs sized you up and decided that you knew what you were doing, he would respect you.
In both his personal and his professional life over the years,
his inner circle tended to include many more strong people than toadies.