Putting yourself first
If you find yourself saying no to something ormaking up lies to get out of it, tell them the truth, and don't apologize.
You will feel much better in the long run if you are honest with them and yourself.
If you're not up to a voluntary obligation, you don't have to be. You can politely deny the person's request.
It is okay to be selfish from time to time. Put yourself first.
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You must be honest with me.