Focus on people.
Too often we spend time with friends and family, or meet with colleagues, and we’re not really there with them.
We talk to them but are distracted by devices. We are there, but our minds are on things we need to do.
We listen, but we’re really thinking about ourselves and what we want to say. None of us are immune to this, but with conscious effort you can shut off the outside world and just be present with the person you’re with.
This means that just a little time spent with your family and friends can go a long way—a much more effective use of your time, by the way.
It means we really connect with people rather than just meeting with them.
rather than （要）…而不…，与其…倒不如…； instead of sb/sth 而不是；
Circumstances dictated that they played a defensive rather than attacking game.
The effect is soft and pretty rather than drop-dead sexy.
Really it's a workmanlike conference rather than a dramatic one.