背景介绍

【背景】

概述

友谊（friendship）是人们在交往活动中产生的一种特殊情感，它与交往活动中所产生的一般好感是有本质区别的。友谊是一种来自双向（或交互）（reciprocal）关系的情感，即双方共同凝结的情感，任何单方面的良好，不能称为友谊。友谊以亲密为核心成分，亲密性也就称为衡量友谊程度的一个重要指标。罗杰斯（Rogers，1985）对这种亲密性作了三点概括：（1）能够向朋友表露自己的思想感情和内心秘密；（2）对朋友充分信任，确信其“自我表白”将为朋友所尊重，不会被轻易外泄或用以反对自己；（3）限于被特殊评价的友谊关系中，即限于少数的密友或知己之间。

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英文原文

【原文】

Friends and valuative--On Making Friends

Everyone needs friends,and if you fail to make friends,you should examine yourself and see if there is something wrong with your personality.

May be you have social faults such as snobbishness,talkativeness and using slang etc. which drive away your new acquaintances.Whatever your social faults may be,look at them honestly and make real effort to correct them.

To be friendly you must feel friendly.Cheerfulness is the basis of friendliness.A cheerful people smiles.A smile is a magnet which draws people.Smile at someone and you are almost sure to get a smile in return.

A friendly person does his best to make a stranger feel at home,wherever he happens to be.Put yourself in the other fellow's place and make them feel welcome.

Try to remember names.It makes your new acquaintances feel happy when you call them by their names.It gives them the feeling that they have made an impression on you and that mean something to them because you remember them.

If you don't agree with other people on a certain matter,you should appear to be friendly.Don't argue,but discuss.You always lose friends if you argue too much.

A friendly person thinks of others,and doesn't insist on his own "rights".People who refuse to consider others have few friends.

Finally,don't treat people only according to their social positions.Really friendly people respect everyone at all times.

中文译文

【中文译文】

关于交友

人人都需要朋友，若你在交朋友方面总是失败，就该反省自己，看是否你的个性有什么问题。

或许你有些在社交上应该避讳的缺点，比如势力、饶舌、说脏话等，这些都会妨碍你结交新朋友。无论你有什么社交缺点，都该正视它们，尽力摒弃。

要友善，你一定要给人友好的感觉：快乐是友善的基础。一个快乐的人总会面带微笑。微笑好似有吸引力的磁铁，你对别人微笑，你也会得到他微笑的回报。

无论在哪里，友善之人都会让陌生人有居家般自在舒适的感觉，设身处地为陌生人考虑，让他有备受欢迎的感觉。

尽量记住人名。对新认识的朋友直呼其名会令他们很高兴，他们会觉得你对他有了一定的印象，这说明你记住了他们，这对他们很重要。

若在某件事上你不能与别人达成一致意见，你该表现出友好。可以讨论，但不要争吵。争吵过甚会使你失去朋友。

友善之人常为他人考虑，不会为自己争取“权力”。不顾及别人的人，他的朋友寥寥无几。

最后，切勿以社会地位论人。真正的友善之人往往尊重别人。

【词汇讲解】

1.snobbish adj. 势利的

如：It is strange that he should fall in love with such a snobbish girl.
说来奇怪，他居然会喜欢上那个高傲的女孩子。

Jane feels she can never compete with these snobbish, elegant people.
简知道自己永远不会和这些高雅却势利的人竞争。

2.talkative adj. 喜欢说话的，健谈的，多嘴的

如：She became more and more talkative as the evening went on.
夜深了，她的话也渐渐多起来。

Giddy and talkative; foolish.
饶舌的轻率和多言的; 愚蠢的

3. Cheerful 开开心心的

如：Whether she is sick or fine, she is always cheerful.
不管她生病与否，她总是开开心心的。

His cheerful manner belied his real feelings.
他快活的样子掩饰了自己真实的感情。

4.valuative adj. (可)估价的
(可)评价的

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