Consider the times you've hopped on a subway, boarded a plane or entered a waiting room.
Chances are, you probably avoided engaging with any fellow commuters or patients.
But contrary to what we might think, we'd be happier if we did strike up a conversation with a total stranger.
In a study, commuters in Chicago were asked to either talk with a stranger on a train, or sit quietly alone, or just do whatever they'd normally do on their commute.
Then, they responded to a survey about how they felt.
Turns out those who engaged with strangers had the most pleasurable experience and those who remained solitary had the least enjoyable experience.
These answers were compared with another group that did not participate but instead had to predict how they might feel in each situation.
This group thought talking with strangers would be the least enjoyable, by far.
The study is the journal of Experimental Psychology.
So despite being social animals and enjoying social engagement, we avoid chatting with strangers.
Why? Well, according to a follow up study it's because we think, wrongly, that strangers don't want to talk with us.
The one way to get over this is to practice reaching out-who knows, commuting could become more enjoyable.
1.strike up 使开始；建立起
The band struck up the wedding march.
He struck up an acquaintance with a girl when he was 18.
2.ask to 邀请...参加...
She asked us to the dancing party.
I was asked to a wedding party.
3.respond to 响应
He will respond to that, not me.
So how do the different skill levels respond to a model like this?
4.compare with 与…相比较
How does your bike compare with mine?
How do they compare with our alternatives?