You like to think of yourself as a good friend, but are you really? If you’re not sure, it’s time to think about what makes a true pal.
你认为自己是一个好的称职的朋友，但你是吗？如果不确定的话，是时候了解怎样才是一个真正的好伙伴了@3oy6AX=#66eR7)%%xg。

You Will Need
你需要

Patience
耐心

Self-control
自我控制

Selflessness
无私

Step 1: Be willing to listen
1.愿意倾听

Always be willing to listen to what the other person is telling you, even if sometimes it’s boring or makes you uncomfortable.
总是愿意倾听别人告诉你的事，即使有时候内容很乏味或是令你很不舒服i!#8Iy)sV;~mL0-t。

Step 2: Don’t be judgmental
2.不要过于决断

Don’t be judgmental. Try to see your friend’s point of view. If you’re going to disagree, do it respectfully.
不要过于决断ALtNiOnnn)7(,BiV。试着去理解朋友的观点zOXvd#!F*apjW。如果你不同意他的观点，一定要委婉些jo1!tWL4AG.B7M7EA8[。

Don’t give advice without being asked, or first asking if your friend would like your counsel. Sometimes people just want to vent.
如果朋友没有让你提意见不要发表意见，或是先问问你的朋友是否想听你的意见m8!X.&^wAs。有时候人们只是想发泄一下@]Ue_cJ0ckS。

Step 3: Speak up
3.毫无顾虑地说出

That said, if your friend is doing something that is hurting her or someone else, you must speak up. Forcefully.
也就是说，如果你的朋友做了伤害别人的事，你一定要毫无顾虑地指出来VyNdh5sgxmD4yZ7NSy。要有说服力-3=W4b8TVEs7。

Step 4: Don’t interrupt
4.不要打断朋友的话

Don’t interrupt your friend. Cutting someone off shows that you are more interested in what you want to say than what they are telling you.
不要打断别人的话j)ocAV|jz(CJs+。插话会表明你相对于别人说的话，你更对自己所说的感兴趣&f!YfXo[sEo_57]C1c。

Step 5: Be there when they need help
5.朋友需要帮助时伸出援手

Be there when they need help. Nothing ends a friendship faster than abandoning a friend in her time of need.
当朋友需要帮助时伸出援手)Vt68OEe&g7|&,。如果朋友需要帮忙时，你却不理睬，友谊很很快结束3uibw8MU|1i9O.yehx#。

Step 6: Be thoughtful
6.要体贴

Be thoughtful. If you’re shopping and see a small item a buddy would like, buy it. Send cards just to let your friends know you value them.
要体贴rwZMymcx*Pkk~。如果你在购物，看到一个好朋友喜欢的小饰品，买下来PUiT95mOE]XdkTj+U@。给朋友发祝福卡片让他们知道你珍视友谊)&x#u&j6)TLJp。

Step 7: Don’t take your friends for granted
7.不要把你的朋友想当然

Don’t take your friends for granted. If you hear yourself thinking, “She’s my friend; she won’t mind,” stop and reconsider. It is precisely because she’s your friend that you shouldn’t take advantage of her.

不要把你的朋友想当然|ns=NBnB|1;_X。如果你发觉自己出现“她是我的朋友，她不会介意”的想法，停下来再重新思考p]Cd|*oJS,PSZ4W5y。正因为她是你的朋友，你才不应该利用她UPj,1#D,-ZYK2L。

Good friends may help you live longer—one study found subjects with a wide circle of friends outlived loners by 22%!
好朋友会帮助你更长寿——一项研究发现，有着广阔的朋友圈的人比孤独的人长寿22%id#DGi;IN^g@+e。