9个小步骤,快速读懂对方的心理(视频)
日期:2010-05-17 17:58

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We can’t really tell you how to become a mind reader. But we can teach you how to make some impressively accurate guesses, based on psychics’ tricks of the trade.

You Will Need
A pleasant demeanor
A keen eye
Leading statements
Listening skills
A knowledge of human nature
The ability to read body language

Step 1: Prime them(做好事先准备)
Use your body language to make the person comfortable around you. Smile, tilt your head to one side when you’re listening to them, keep your arms unfolded, and point your torso and feet toward theirs.

Step 2: Read their palms(读对方的手掌)
Gauge how relaxed they are by reading their palms. Are their hands tightly clenched? When you shake their hand, is it cold and clammy or hot and sweaty? All indicate unease.

Step 3: Study their face(看对方的脸相)
Study their face, specifically the upper portion. A fake smile does not reach the eyes, so if the area around the eyes remains smooth and un-crinkled, the smiling person may really be feeling nervous or skeptical.

Of course too much Botox might throw off this test.

Step 4: Go fishing(钓鱼)
Make a general statement that will help you fish for information—something vague that could apply to anyone at any time like, “You’re worried about something, aren’t you?” or, “You’re concerned about a relationship,” or “Something has been on your mind lately.”

Step 5: Listen carefully(仔细聆听)
Listen carefully to their response so you can tweak your tactics accordingly. If they get emotional, you know you’ve hit a nerve—keep digging! If not, switch to another subject.

Use a psychic trick known as the “Barnum reading,” named after P.T.’s philosophy of offering something for everyone. Describe the person in safe, even-handed terms like, “You can be quiet, but when you want to, you can become the life of the party.” Watch for physical flickers of recognition so you know what to zero in on.

Step 6: Look for micro-expressions(寻找极简短的表达)
Look for micro-expressions—those blink-and-you-miss-them involuntary movements that betray a person’s real feelings. For example, the person who lies when he says he’s not worried about something will nod his head up and down almost imperceptibly during the denial.

Step 7: Lead them on(引导对方)
Ask the person about something that almost everyone has in common—like a box of old photos—then use the response to tease out more information.

Step 8: Learn basic body language(读懂简单的身体语言)
Learn basic body language. A person with his hands clasped behind his back or behind his head is confident; crossed arms indicate dislike or guardedness; a man with his thumbs hooked in his pants pocket is showing his sexual availability; ditto for a woman who plays with her hair and entwines her legs.

Step 9: Mirror them(模仿对方的动作)
Mirror the person’s movements—if they are cupping their chin with their hand, you do the same—to establish intimacy. It not only will help you to read them better—it will make them more prone to open up to you.

词汇讲解

【词汇讲解】

1.clammy 冷湿的,粘湿的

如:He clutched the cane in his clammy hand.
他那湿冷的手紧抓住手杖。

She gave a little shudder when she touched his clammy hand.
摸到他湿冷的手时,她微微一颤。

My shirt stuck to the clammy sweat on my back.
衬衫贴到我汗津津的背上。

2.tweak 拧;捏;扭

如:He gave the boy’s ear a painful tweak.
他用力拧了一下那男孩的耳朵。

3.clasp 抱紧;紧紧拥抱

如:The child clasped the doll tightly.
小孩紧抱着洋娃娃。

4.prone to 倾于…

如:He is prone to indigestion.
他容易患消化不良。

He was prone to anger.
他易于发怒。


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重点单词
  • accurateadj. 准确的,精确的
  • recognitionn. 认出,承认,感知,知识
  • touchedadj. 受感动的 adj. 精神失常的
  • primeadj. 最初的,首要的,最好的,典型的 n. 青春,壮
  • teasen. 揶揄者,戏弄 v. 欺负,嘲弄
  • portionn. 部分,份,命运,分担的责任
  • dislikev. 不喜欢,厌恶 n. 不喜爱,厌恶,反感
  • imperceptiblyadv. 极微地;微细地;察觉不到地
  • skepticaladj. 怀疑的
  • availabilityn. 有效,有用,有益;可得到的人(或物)