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People in your life can make you feel bad or wrong by saying one thing to you and meaning something else. You can avoid falling into their traps.

You Will Need

Self-acceptance
Honesty
Dignity
Realistic attitude
Self control
Anger management classes (optional)

Step 1: Accept yourself（接受自己）
Accept yourself and enjoy life. Look at your own habits of avoidance and manipulation and be honest about your need to feel guilty or responsible when someone wants to get a reaction out of you.

If you act like nothing is wrong, you could end up imitating passive-aggressive people by deflecting your own needs.

Step 2: Discuss the facts（实事求是地表述一件事）
Discuss objective facts, not feelings. You will reduce conflict and the nagging self-doubt that follows.

Step 3: Use "I" message（使用以“我”开头的句子）
Use “I” messages to confront the person. Let them know how their behavior makes you feel. Maintain your dignity and communicate faith in the other person’s ability to solve what is actually their problem.

Step 4: Encourage responsibility（承担更多的责任）
Encourage passive-aggressive people to take on more tasks so they can’t blame others by opting out of participation.

Step 5: Be realistic（务实）
Be realistic about the passive-aggressive person’s ability to change and don’t delude yourself into thinking you can solve their problems. Such “caretaking” may only solidify their behaviors.

Take anger management classes with a passive-aggressive partner to show support.

Step 6: Handle your stress（克服自己的压力）
Handle your stress whenever you have to deal with a passive-aggressive person. Don’t complicate things by dwelling on your frustrated expectations.

In 2009, almost 121 million people worldwide were depressed and almost 10 percent of the American public was taking anti-depressants.

词汇讲解

【词汇讲解】

1.avoidance n. 避免
2.manipulation n. 操纵，控制，窜改

如：His clever manipulation of the stock market make him lots of money.
他在股票交易中买卖精明，赚了很多钱。

The complete operation performed on data.It includes steps of origination, input, manipulation, output and storage.
对数据项的一次完整操作。它包括生成、输入、处理、输出以及存储。

3.end up 结束，告终

如：If you continue to steal you'll end up in prison.
你要是继续行窃终归得进监狱。

You could end up running this company if you play your cards right.
你要是处理得当，到头来这个公司能归你掌管。

4.nagging adj. 唠叨的，纠缠的，挑剔的

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