Students' pressure sometimes comes from their parents.
学生的压力有时来自于他们的父母。
Most parents are well meaning, but some of them aren't very helpful with the problems their sons and daughters have in adjusting to college. And a few of them seem to go out of their way to add to their children's difficulties.
大多数家长是善意的，但是有些家长在孩子适应大学生活的问题上并不能起帮助作用，另外还有一部分家长好像故意在增加孩子的困难。
For one thing, parents are often not aware of the kinds of problems their children face. They don't realize that the competition is keener, that the required standards of work are higher, and that their children may not be prepared for the change.
他们通常没有意识到子女面临的问题。他们不知道竞争越来越激烈，这需要更高标准的成绩。他们的孩子可能还没有对这种变化做好准备。
Accustomed to seeing A's and B's on the high school report cards, they may be upset when their children's first semester college grades are below that level.
习惯于看到孩子高中成绩单中的优异成绩，父母可能会因为孩子大学第一学期的成绩不如以前而着急。
At their kindest, they may gently inquire why John or Mary isn't doing better, whether he or she is trying as hard as he or she should, and so on. At their worst, they may threaten to take their children out of college, or cut off funds.
好的情况是，他们可能会试探地问约翰或玛丽为什么成绩下降，是不是他或她不像以前那么努力学习了，等等。糟糕的情况是，他们可能会威胁子女退学或切断他们的资金来源。
Sometimes parents regard their children as extensions of themselves, and think it only right and natural that they determine what their children do with their lives.
有时父母把孩子视为自己生命的延伸，并认为自己决定孩子应当过怎样的生活是一件理所当然的事情。
In their involvement and identification with their children, they forget that everyone is different, and that each person must develop in his or her own way.
父母对孩子的过多干涉使他们忘了每个人都是不同的，每个人都应该有自己的发展。
They forget that their children, who are now young adults, must be the ones responsible for what they do and what they are.
他们忘记自己的孩子已经是年轻的成年人了，他们必须认清自己并为自己的行为负责。