The "Multiple Excuses" Excuse

“多重借口”的借口

Dear Greg,

亲爱的格雷格，

My boyfriend of a year and a half doesn't seem attracted to me.

我交往了一年半的男朋友貌似对我不是很感性趣。

He doesn't want to have sex that often, maybe once every other week.

他不怎么想做爱，也许每两周一次。

Often I have to initiate it. When I ask him about it, he tells me that he's really stressed about work, but that he really is attracted to me.

而且必须由我来挑起。当我问起的时候，他说他工作压力太大了，他对我是感性趣的。

Before that he told me it was because his mother had recently died and he was too depressed.

之前他告诉我说是因为他母亲最近去世了，他很难过。

But when I really think about it, it's been pretty much like this ever since we met.

但是当我真正思考过后，发现这情况从我们遇见之后就一直如此。

Maybe for the first couple of weeks I felt like he thought I was hot, but since then he has never really seemed that into me physically.

也许刚开始的几周我感觉他觉得我很性感，然后他开始再也不对我的肉体感兴趣了。

I love him, and it's the most loving and healthy relationship in every other way, but now I spend a lot of time feeling frustrated and unattractive.

我爱他，在其他方面看来这是最有爱最健康的恋情，但是现在我大部分时间感到沮丧和缺乏吸引力。

My friends say I should believe what he's saying.

我的朋友们说我应该相信他说的话。

But I'm starting to feel like he's just not that into me, physically.

但是我开始感觉他不再喜欢我的肉体了。

Signed Dara

达拉

Dear Let's Get Physical,

亲爱的让我们滚床单吧，

If I'm really into somebody, I want to put it in them. And then take it out. And then put it back in them later on.

如果我真的爱一个人，我会想不停的跟她做爱，摩擦摩擦。

So when we're picking someone who we want to spend a lot of time with, even perhaps the rest of our lives, we generally try to pick someone who likes to do the things we like to do.

所以当我们选择想和自己共度大片时光甚至余生的人，我们一般会选择兴趣一致的人。

Including, if not especially, sex.

不例外的包括做爱。

You can accept his excuses all you want, but you have to ask yourself, is this the relationship you want to be in?

你可以想接受他的理由就接受，但是你必须扪心自问真的想要这样的感情么？

Is this how you want to live the rest of your sex life?

你真的想要在余生度过这样的性生活么？

He may be into you, he may not, but the only thing you have to answer is, is this how you want to feel, perhaps forever?

他也许爱你，也许不爱，但是你必须回答是否想永远这样。

Most regretably, Greg

十分遗憾的格雷格

The Egyptians painted pots about it, the yogis write books about it, the Jews have made religious laws about it.

埃及人在盆上画关于它的画，瑜伽修行者写关于它的书，犹太人制定关于它的宗教法律。

They all believe that one of the strongest ingredients to a healthy union is sex.

他们都相信健康结合最重要的部分就是做爱。

One of the great joys in life is that you get to have sex.

人生最大的乐事之一就是做爱。

The last person who should be stopping you from enjoying that is the person you're dating.

最不该阻止你享受它的就是你的对象。

It's So Simple

显而易见的

Learn it, live it, like it, love it: If a man likes you, he's going to want to have sex with you.

学习它，让它成为生活的一部分，喜欢它，爱上它：如果一个男人喜欢你，他会渴望与你做爱。

Sure, things may slow down in a long-term relationship, but even then, it's a joy, a gift, and your right to have a fantastic sex life.

当然，在爱情长跑里可能会缓和一些，但是，它依然是一种乐趣，一份礼物，是你享受绝妙性生活的权利。