英文原文

生活给予我们每个人的资源是一样的，我们不是去衡量得失的多少，我们更多的该去摆正自己的心态，学会放开心灵的枷锁，让自己活得自在，活得精彩，活得更有价值！

I believe people have become tighter, meaner and less tolerant than ever. I never remember people being so uncool. I don't remember people getting the 3rd degree because they decided to wear brown shoes instead of black. If you get too close to someone on the road, they wanna get out and shoot you for possibly hitting their car. What's wrong with these people?

I believe it pays to be cool. Most people in this day and age are always terribly stressed and hypersensitive to absolutely everything. They will age quickly. Cool people stay young for ever.

10 years ago cell phones were still a luxury. People still had land lines for their primary phone numbers. Remember when it was ok to have a dial-up. Now people don't even bother asking me for a home number anymore. Just because we are so busy , people don't even bother being at home anymore? Or is business so important that people need to get in touch with you upon demand. Didn't people survive just fine, not being contacted by their boss while having diner with their families? As for the Internet, it amazes me that when you walk into a Starbucks, it looks like compUSA with all the doggone laptops with people stressing out over whatever. When people need to work on stressful work-related issues on their laptops, they go to Starbucks to drink coffee. Me, on the other hand. I'm cool. Why do I know that? Because I sleep well at night and I work with people who apparently like to work with me.

Now let me make something very very clear. I am not always cool. I've had my meltdowns in life. Once I had a musician in my band, who was a little less than cool, he was flat out(completely) lazy. After 15 months of playing the same music, he never bothered to memorize it. Instead of pulling him aside and addressing the situation like a rational person would have done, I let him have it like I've never let anyone have it before. After it was over, I realized that I cleared the room . Everyone was so scared or annoyed that they just left. Well, lazy guy left the band and has never spoken to me ever again. I am sorry for that. I wish I could have that moment back but I can't. I can only learn from that and I try very hard not to have another meltdown ever.

Pleasing everyone doesn't always mean saying yes or that's great, or no problem. Sometimes you have to say the opposite, but with a clear, sensible and gracious tone. Being cool is not what you say or do, but how you say or do it. So I say, be cool, you'll see more , you'll learn more , you'll make better decisions, you'll be happier.

中文译文

我相信现在的人比起以前更小气，更容易生气了。我不记得从何时开始人们变成这样。我也不知道从什么开始人们会因为不穿黑鞋，穿棕色的鞋子而招到质问。在街上，如果你碰到了别人的车门，也会招到一顿骂。现在的人究竟是怎么了？

我相信洒脱是值得的。现在的人大多数压力大，对所有的事情都极为敏感。这样很容易老去，唯有洒脱的人才可以永远年轻下去。

10年前，手机还是一种奢侈品。人们主要用的还是电话机。不知从什么时候开始，出现了拨号上网，现在人们都懒得问对方的手机号了、就因为太忙了，连呆在家里的时间也没有了？还是因为工作太忙，只能在有需要的时候联系你？如果不合老板联系，和家人一起吃顿晚饭，也不会怎么样吧？至于网络，我真的感到惊奇。每次你走进星巴克，就能看到很多人摆弄着那可憎的电脑在忙着工作，当人们需要用自己的电脑来处理有压力的工作上的事宜，他们就会选择去星巴克喝杯咖啡。我不一样，我是完全没负担的。我为什么知道？因为我很清楚，自己每晚睡得很好，和我工作的人都是喜欢工作的。

现在，我把事情说得更明白一点。其实我也不是时时刻刻都这么洒脱的。我也有自己的不愉快，之前我的乐队里有一个懒惰到极致的人。15个月里，训练同一首曲子，但他从来不用心去记。我没有把他叫到一边，理智地对他说，而是像自己从来没有教过别人那样教他。结束后，我知道我该做的已经做了。所有的人都带着恐惧和愤怒离开了。当然，懒鬼离开了乐队，再也没有和我说过一句话。我很后悔。我希望一切可以重来，但是不可能了。我只能从这件事情上吸取教训，避免类似的情况再次发生。

取悦别人并不是让你总是说“是的”，“很不错”“没关系”这样的话，有的时候你也需要说不好的话，只是口气上，和态度上要缓和。关键不是你说什么或做什么，而是你怎么去说或者做。因此，我想说，洒脱一点，你会学到更多，作出更正确的决定，活得更开心。

重点词汇

1.getting the 3rd degree 质问，逼供

如：The police will give Mr. A the third degree if he continues to act strangely.
假如他的行动还是怪怪的，警察将会逼供他。

As the daughter did not want her father to remarry, she gave him the third degree.
由于女儿不要老爸再婚，她给他许多质问。

2.hypersensitive adj. 过敏的；高灵敏度的；超感光度的

如： This explanation was readily understood by Melanie who was hypersensitive about all matters relating to childbirth.
媚兰对这样的解释是十分理解的，和生育有关的任何事情她都非常体谅。

3.dial-up n. 拨号（上网）

如：They put me in the slow class at school because I have dial-up Internet service.
在学校他们将我安排在慢班，因为我开通了一个拨号上网服务。

The Dial-Up Adapter will not function properly with more than one additional adapter installed for the current hardware profile.
对于当前的硬件配置文件，如果安装了多个其他适配器，拨号适配器将不能正常工作。

4.doggone adj. 可憎的；可恶的

Doggone! Why did you beat my pet dog?
坏蛋，你为什么打我的宠物狗？

5.meltdown [美俚]灾难；彻底垮台；熔化；暴跌

如：If 2008 was the year of the banking meltdown, then 2009 was the year of the stimulus packages.
如果2008年是银行彻底垮台的一年，那么2009年就是一篮子刺激政策的一年。