(单词翻译:单击)
Self-image is the picture you have of yourself, the sort of person you believe you are. Included in your self-image are the categories in which you place yourself, the roles you play and other similar descriptors you use to identify yourself.
自我形象是一种自我定位,在心目中自己是什么样的人。你把自己放在哪一类型的人当中,扮演什么样的角色,用什么描述识别自己。
If you tell an acquaintance you are a grandfather who recently lost his wife and who does volunteer work on weekends, several elements of your self-image are bought to light — the roles of grandparent, widower and conscientious citizen.
如果你告诉一个相识的人你是一个不久前失去妻子的祖父,并且每个周末都去做义工,那么你的几个自我形象就会展现出来——祖父、鳏夫和尽职的公民。
But self-image is more than how you picture yourself; it also involves how others see you. Three types of feedback from others are indicative of how they see us: conformation, rejection, and disconfirmation.
但是自我形象不只是自我定位,它还包括别人如何看待你。从别人身上得到的三种反馈表明了对方是如何看待我们的:一致性、排斥性和不一致性。
Conformation occurs when others treat you in a manner consistent with who you believe you are. You believe you have leadership abilities and your boss put you in charge of a new work team.
一致性发生在别人对待你的方式和你一贯的自我认定相符。你认为自己有领导才能,而你的领导又让你负责新的工作队伍。
On the other hand, rejection occurs when others treat you in a manner that is inconsistent with yourself definition.
另一方面,排斥性发生在别人对待你的方式和你对自己的定位发生矛盾的时候。
Pierre Salinger was appointed senator from California but subsequently lost his first election.
皮耶尔·塞林杰被任命为来自加利福尼亚的参议员,但是后来他在首次选举中失败。
He thought he was a good public official, but the voters obviously thought otherwise— Their vote was inconsistent with his self-concept.
他认为自己是一个优秀的政府官员,但是他的投票者显然不这么想。他们的投票与他的自我评估发生了矛盾。
The third type of feedback is disconfirmation, which occurs when others fail to respond to your notion of self by responding neutrally.
第三种反馈是不一致性。它发生在其他人没能回应你的想法而表示中立的时候。
A student writes what he thinks is an excellent composition, but the teacher writes no encouraging remarks.
一个学生写了一份他认为极其好的作文,但是老师给的分数却很平常。
Rather than relying on how others classify you, consider how you identify yourself. The way in which you identify yourself is the best reflection of yourself-image.
与其依靠别人对你的评价,不如自我审视。在自我认知的过程中能够更好的认识自己。