In our many interviews with people “in love” we ask them the most revealing question of the interview – “When did you know you were in love?” We have heard very consistent answers over our 26+ years of interviews with couples in love. There are seven key indicators to know when you are really in love:

对恋人们的多次采访后，我们都问了同样的也是最露骨的问题—“从什么时候开始你意识到你恋爱了”？经过26年坚持不懈的采访，我们得到了一致的答案，7种主要迹象表明你真的恋爱了。

1.Physical: People who say they are in love report getting “goosebumps,” “a palpating heart,” “sweaty palms,” “a tingling sensation all over my body.” People in love have a positive physical reaction when they think about or see the one they love.

身体上：如果恋人们见到或者思念他们的恋人，他们的身体通常会有一些相应的反应，例如，起鸡皮疙瘩，溢于言表，手掌出汗，身体感到微微的颤动。

2.Emotional: When they think about or see the person they love most lovers report “an uncontrollable smile comes over my face whenever I see her,” and “I miss him when he leaves the room.” People in love feel emotions for the person they love that they do not routinely feel for others.

情感上：当你想念你最爱的人，或者看到你最爱的时，你会情不自禁的发笑，不仅如此，你会更加关心你所爱之人。

3. Positive worry: Over the years, we continue to be amazed about the consistency with which people in love report to us that they “worry about their lover” when they are not around. Thoughts about what we have come to call “positive worry” about the one they love begin to creep into their mind.

积极担心：通过这几年对恋人的采访，我们惊奇的发现，如果你的另一半不在你身边，你会不由自主的为他担心，我们把对另一半的担心成为积极担心。

4. I-cannot-imagine-life-without-him: This is the point in love when you begin to think about the future – your future with the one you love. When you cannot imagine your life without her, you are in love!

没有他，我将何去何从：展望未来，恋人们通常会想到这一点—和你所爱的人厮守终身，你无法想象没有他的日子。

5. Oneness of your relationship: You begin to realize that you truly want this other person in your life. In our book, we refer to the notion of “turning two into one.” Everything changes from you and me, to WE!

行动一致：你开始意识到你真的希望和他在一起，用书中的一句话，用书中的一句话就是 “合二为一“。从你，变成了我们。

6. Pre-occupied love: Simply stated, you think about the one you love most of the time. You can’t get them out of your mind. You are in love with them!

钟爱：简单的说就是你无时无刻不在思念着你最爱的人，一旦你爱上了一个人，你就无法忘掉他。

7. Love itself and your ability to express that love: You finally have the courage to tell them you love them! You suddenly and out of nowhere are inspired to say I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU! You shout it to the stars. You are in love!

让爱和行动诠释爱：当你终于鼓起勇气向她表白，你会情不自禁的喊出，我爱你，我爱你，我爱你，你就真的步入爱河了。