It's no secret that men and women communicate differently--but is there really no way to translate Mars talk to Venus speak? Ready for a practice run? Here are five common communication problems in relationships.
男人说：Uh huh. Right. Yeah. 嗯哼。对。是的。
女人的理解：He couldn't be less interested in what I'm saying. 他对我说的事情一点都不感兴趣。
男人本意：I want to hear your story, but it's been 10 minutes and still no punch line. 我想听你的故事，但十分钟过去了你还是没说出个所以然来。
Men don't process information in the lengthy way that women do, so telling him a story in the drawn-out way you would to one of your girlfriends isn't going to work. In short, cut to the chase and you'll get more of a reaction.
男人说：It's not a big deal. 没什么大不了的。
女人的理解：How trivial. （他认为）这是小事！
男人本意：Let's not dwell on it. 我们不要老想它了。
Men come from the school of suck-it-up, while women tend to need more reassurance if something is bothering them.
男人说：I need some space. 我需要一些空间。
女人的理解：He doesn't want to be with me. 他不想和我在一起了。
男人本意：I care about you, but I also want some more independence. 我关心你，但我也想要更多的独立空间。
In many romantic relationships, men use this blanket phrase instead of being more specific, as in: "I love the connection we have, but I miss spending time with my friends as well." Use your judgment: If he's still being affectionate and just feels a bit smothered, give him some breathing room. However, if you're only hanging out once a week to begin with, it might just be that he wants to end things--in which case, walk away.
男人说：I'm sorry you feel that way. 你那么想我感到很抱歉。
女人的理解：I'm being a psycho. （他认为）我神经兮兮的。
男人本意：I just really want this argument to be over. 我真的不想再吵了。
Women like to hash things out, talking issues through from start to finish. Guys, on the other hand, have much more of a flight instinct when it comes to confrontation--especially if he doesn't fully understand why you're so upset.
男人说：If you feel undervalued, ask for a raise. 如果你觉得报酬低，可以要求加薪。
女人的理解：Ugh, he think my problems are so simple--just fix it. 啊，他认为我的问题很简单，很好解决。
男人本意：Work's bothering you? Let me help! 工作让你感到困扰吗？让我来帮助你！
The truth is, men tend to see themselves as problem solvers in romantic relationships, and so what comes across as condescending can actually be your guy's way of trying to help."