关注成就

1.Acknowledge Your Accomplishments: Think about your life and what you have accomplished thus far. Maybe you have earned your degree. Maybe you were promoted. Maybe you had a baby. Acknowledge and write down the things you are proud of having achieved. Don’t think about what others think of your accomplishments, but instead, think of what makes YOU proud. Maintain this list throughout your life and review it every so often to remind yourself of the things you have achieved.
关注自己的成就。仔细想想自己的生活，回忆一下你取到的那些成就。或许你已经拿到了自己的文凭，或许你被提升了，也或者你已经是孩子的父母了。

发挥长处

2.Focus on Your Strengths: Take a look at the kind of person you are and think about your strengths. Maybe you are a good listener and are especially thoughtful. Maybe you are hard working. Maybe you volunteer. List out your strengths and the characteristics you love about yourself. Again, refer to this list every so often to remind yourself of the wonderful qualities you possess. A great book to help you discover your strengths (if you can’t see them yourself), is Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath.
发挥自己的长处。想想自己究竟属于哪一类人，并好好总结一下自己的长处。或许你是个有耐心的人，你愿意去仔细聆听别人，也或许你是个很有头脑的人。

积极思考

3.Be Positive and Suppress Negativity. Although the affirmation era may have gone overboard, it did have some merit. Negativity breeds more negativity. When you start to think negatively about yourself, a situation or another person, stop yourself and instead, find something positive on which to focus. Staying mentally positive will help you to be outwardly positive.
积极思考，竭力压制住消极思想。虽然人们都太过于追求被肯定，但是不能否定这确实有一定的意义在里面。消极思考只会让你更加消极。

锻炼身体

4.Exercise. As a high school student, I wasn’t very athletic. However, in college, I became very active and started exercising regularly. I saw a huge improvement in my self-confidence. I felt better about myself…and felt like I looked better too. If you’re out of shape, it is more likely you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. Exercising will help you to feel energized and more positive. Further, you’ll release endorphins, which are “happy hormones” which will help with the mental side of self-confidence.
锻炼身体。在高中的时候，我不是很喜欢运动。但是上了大学之后，我很活跃，定期做运动。这也有助于我们找回自信心。

打扮自己

5.Take Pride in the Way You Look. Taking care in the way you dress and your outward appearance can have a tremendous impact. You’re probably the most critical of yourself, and so, when you don’t look good, it changes the way you feel about yourself, and as a result, the way you come across to others.
好好打扮自己的外表。关注你穿衣的方式，并注重自己的外在也可以提升你的自信心。

练瑜伽

6.Take Yoga or Pilates. If you are tight on a budget, buy a DVD and practice yoga or pilates at home. Why? Because both of these modalities can do wonders for your posture and inner peace. Good posture sends yourself and others a message that you are self-confident, alert and empowered. However, those with bad posture come off lacking in confidence and unsure of themselves.
经常练瑜伽。如果你经济不富裕，可以买个碟回去，跟着练。为什么？因为这些可以帮你塑型，提升你内在的修养。

眼神交流

7.Make Eye-Contact. Making eye contact can be challenging when you lack confidence. The more you do it, however, the easier it gets. Eye-contact sends others a message that you are comfortable with yourself and with connecting with them.
多做眼神交流。当你没有自信的时候，你很难与别人进行眼神交流，你越是经常做，越是容易做到。

微笑

8.Smile. Although there are times when smiling seems way to difficult, forcing yourself to smile can help you break through some of the most uneasy of times and feel more self-confident. Further, smiling at otherselicits a smile back, sending you positive reinforcement along the way.
微笑。虽然微笑有时候对我们来说很难，但是经常微笑可以帮我们度过难关，增加你的自信。

学会赞扬

9.Be Complimentary. Paying others compliments not only makes them feel good about themselves, but will also make you feel good for doing so. Instead of finding fault with others (which is often a result of our finding fault with ourselves), find the good in others, which will also allow us to see the good in ourselves.
学会赞扬他人。赞扬别人不仅会让别人感到快乐，你也会很快乐。多想想别人的好，少在意他人的缺点，也可以让我们更爱自己。

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