Here are four reasons you may keep getting ghosted.
Ghosting in its simplest form means a person disappears and no longer communicates.
It can feel hurtful and dismissive.
In some cases, ghosting is used as a way for someone to avoid engaging with someone who made them uncomfortable.
There are a few reasons people may get ghosted.
The first may be a fear of confrontation.
Ghosters are not always sinister.
Sometimes they are people who don't feel comfortable, letting someone down or potentially having to defend their choices so they cut and run.
It's more about them than you.
Second, some folks may ghost when there is no interest and it's early in the game.
In the volume dating era we are in, some folks assume that not being in touch is understood by everyone as no thanks.
Third, it may speak to circumstances in the ghosters’ life or about a part of their life you didn't know.
They may have reconnected with an ex or were already in a relationship.
Variables like shame may make it easier to just go silent.
Fourth, some ghosters will say they ghost because they've gotten burned in the past when they didn't.
They may have ended it with someone and faced an abusive rant, so they may figure that going silent would be less stressful.
The longer the relationship the more painful ghosting is.
After one date most people don't care, but I know someone who got ghosted after 6 years and that felt like an episode of Black Mirror.
By and large when you are ghosted it's usually not about you.