Let me tell you, for men, if pride is the problem, the antidote I'm suggesting is vulnerability, for every man in this room.
The trick to vulnerability is that you have to open up.
You have to admit you're not invincible, because invincibility is the myth.
Every man is living it.
Every guy in here lives his own action movie, all day long.
And my wife kept turning on the light and I'm like, I don't want to see the theater. I don't want to see the seats. I don't want to see it.
I want to see my own action movie.
But the deal is through vulnerability, we can see, we can truly see where we really, really are.
And that vulnerability is the only way you can get love.
Because the trick is, what's a wow is that guys tend to feel like, okay, I'm going to be tough. I'm going to be steel. I'm cold steel. I'm dirty Harry.
I'm all these movies where, you know, all of a sudden, the bullets just ping off me and we know that's not true.
Vulnerability says I'm hurt.
Vulnerability says I have been through trauma.
And because of my therapy and because of what I've been through, I was able to recognize when my own lines were crossed.
Because this is the thing, there are people who would say you were too big to be assaulted.
You're too strong for have someone sexually assault you.
And I said, even if I had to beat him up, does that mean I wasn't assaulted?
No, I was violated.
And a lot of times guys pretend they weren't.
In the military, in fraternities, in colleges and schools, things that have been, you know, lines have been crossed, and you'll never, you are too prideful to admit.
And you deal with this trauma.
And then to the point where, when it's too late.
People are on a clock tower shooting at the students.
They're in Vegas shooting at a crowd in concert.
This stuff comes out in different ways.
And if we don't learn as men, how to be vulnerable, and I'm not saying you have to be public,
but what I am saying is that you have to find someone you love, you care about, and someone who cares about you and loves you, and you have to share and open up.
Because let me tell you, man, I've seen the toughest, toughest men crumble, crumble.