Too many people have children for the wrong reasons, and I won’t be one of them. A lot of new parents, when asked why they wanted to have children, start their sentences with “I want,” and while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to raise a family, I don’t want my family to be started on the fact that I wanted a child.
许多人因为错误的原因生了孩子，我不会是她们中的一员。许多新的父母，当问及她们为什么要孩子的时候，他们开始说的第一句话就是“我想”，然而想要组建一个家庭这无可厚非，但是我不想我的家庭始于想要一个孩子这样一个事实。
If I am to have kids of my own, I’m going to have far more reasons than that. It’s going to be because my husband and I agreed that we were at the opportune time in our life, and had everything we needed to be able to bring a child into the world and give them the life they deserve. If I can’t offer a good life for my future children, then I won’t be making a life at all.
如果我想要自己的孩子，我会有比这更多的原因。可以是因为我的丈夫和我都认为我们在人生中合适的时间，拥有将孩子带来这个世界上并给他们应该有的生活的所有能力。如果我不能给我未来的孩子提供良好的生活，那么我也不会要孩子。
If I can’t make love work with a man, what makes me think that I can raise a child? Raising a child requires a great degree of unconditional love, patience and many other qualities and attributes that, if I can’t make a relationship work, I’m not sure I possess.
如果我不能与一个男人ML的话，那么还有什么会让我想要抚养一个孩子呢？抚养孩子需要大量的无条件的爱，耐心以及许多其他品质和特点，如果我不能让感情关系良好发展，我也就不确定我是否有这些品质。

This isn’t to say that others who have children and failed relationships are doing a bad job because they aren’t, but I believe that if you can’t make a relationship work then you can successfully raise a child.
这并不是说因为没有能够处理好良好的关系的其他人，有孩子且情感受挫的人的工作做得不好，但是我相信如果你不能维持良好的感情关系，你也能够成功抚养一个孩子。
There’s so much to it that people can’t comprehend until they’re in that position, so I may not even know what I’m talking about, but the way I see it is that if raising a child is the hardest thing in the world to do properly, everything else has to be easy.
许多人只有在处于那种情况的时候才会理解这一点，所以我或许甚至不知道自己在说什么，但是我认为如果抚养还是是世界上最难做好的一件事，其他事情就都很简单了。