We live in a world that is run by the powerful fuel called ambition. Whether it is focused on getting the guy or whether it is focused on getting the job, ambition remains a powerful substance. If you have it, you feel it pulsing in every nerve of your body.
我们生活在一个由野心力量主导的世界。无论是集中精力得到男神还是集中能力去获得工作，野心一直是一种力量巨大的存在。如果你有野心，你会感觉你身体的每个神经都热血澎湃。
Chasing the dream guy
追求男神
First of all, why is he running? Is he running because you are not paying enough attention to him or is he running because he is intimidated by your ability to dream independently from him? If he really loves you, he will not make you choose.
首先，为什么他要跑开呢？他跑开是因为你没有对他足够关注，还是因为他害怕你从他身边独立的能力？如果他真的爱你，他不会让你选择。
Instead of running away from you, he will run to you and fight for you. He will tell you when he is unhappy or unsatisfied and then the both of you can figure out a system of working things out together.
他会跑向你，为你奋斗，而不是逃离你。当他不开心或者不满的时候，他会告诉你，然后你们可以一起想出一种解决问题的办法。

Chasing a guy because he feels neglected or because your dream career makes him feel insecure will only end in heartache – for you both, and frankly it is humiliating and exhausting. A man of character and dignity, a man that is truly worth your beautiful heart, will not run away – remember that.
他感觉被忽视或者因为你的梦想职业让他感觉不安，追求这样的男人，最后的结局只有心痛——对你们两个人来说，坦诚说，这很丢脸而且让人筋疲力尽。一个有人格有尊严的男人，一个真正值得拥有你芳心的人，不会逃跑的——记住这一点。
If you do decide to run after him, you will find the dynamics have drastically changed. He might smooth things over for the next few months, trying to persuade you into thinking you made the right decision.
如果你决定追求他，你会发现动力就彻底改变了。他或许会在之后的几个月里面一直恭维你，试图说服你让你认为你做出了正确的决定。
Nevertheless, you will eventually find that your independence and free will has slowly been sucked out of you and you will find yourself in a position of submission. You might be present physically, but your heart and soul will always be somewhere else.
然而，你最终会发现你的独立和自由逐渐被慢慢掏空，你发现自己处在了顺从的位置。你或许身体在某一处，但是你的心和灵魂却一直在其他的地方。
If this happens, he clearly was not the one and you have to remind yourself that there is always a way out; there is always a way to start over.
如果出现这种状况，显然他不是你需要的那个人，你需要提醒自己一定有出路，一定有重新开始的办法。