英语原文

Nowadays loneliness has become many people's daily cup of coffee—they sip the bitterness out of it every day. They suffer from what the pure black liquid does to them—it sits people up in the middle of the day, feeling unsettled.

Some feel lonely from living many years alone, becoming isolated that they feel like staying miles away from the rest of the world. Some live right in the heart of a hot tribe, but still feel a foreigner there, detached from others.

As loneliness is often described as a negative emotion, people feel as blue as they are supposed to be, while experiencing it. They feel empty inside, they walk hollow all the way, and they live with a shadowed face and spirit. Loneliness has become a common flu of the modern society. So how does one fix it to reinvigorate their health and happiness?

Prescription 1: Don't blame it. Even if it's a real flu, focusing on the the problem does little to rectify the situation. Blaming how I made myself this lonely and miserable hardly helps either. It only emphasizes the point that you are left alone, makes you feel even desperate.

You should realize that whatever result you have right now, is all accumulated little by little from your previous choices. You made the choice, and You are the one responsible for your current life. Accept it, and start changing it. Every positive thing starts with an acceptance.

Prescription 2: Don't compare. Most of the pain comes from comparing, from our own tricky mind, rather than the lonely situation itself. When reading books, thinking about how spending time with a loved one eating or watching movies could be 10 times more fun, would ruin the lovely moment of reading alone. When walking in an exotic place, imagining only if I could come with a romantic companion, would take away the very romantic moment you are sharing with yourself.

There will be always better things to do, more interesting stuff to play with, if you make yourself think so. By comparing all the time, you make yourself stuck in the vicious circle of never getting happy enough. Stop comparing, try to enjoy the delicious pie in your hand right now, rather than worrying about what if there's bigger pie or more delicious one out there. Read the books in your hand peacefully, it's wonderful. Walk the scene surrounds you leisurely, it's incredible. Whatever you are doing right now is one beautiful thing in the world. See that, and live fully in the present.

Prescription 3: Enjoy it. Nietzsche once said, "Whoever cannot spend two-thirds of the day alone, doing what he pleases, is a slave."Proper amount of loneliness is good for people living a self-conscious life. When you are alone you will have the room to think independently, without others' perspectives interrupting, even without you noticing. When you get comfortable with being yourself, you will learn to listen to the voice inside, and follow the personal legend that your heart resonates with. Enjoy the golden opportunity to be alone, to behave your true self, and search the very answers you always chased outside but actually exists inside.

Prescription 4: Tweak while living. Accept your current situation and adjust your life towards a more balanced one, by changing gradually. If the pie you are holding can really be improved upon, experiment persistently till you can come up with a better tasting pie.

Get more socialized, join the groups you feel a belonging to and interact with people authentically. Open up your mind and deliberately meet more people. By the law of chance, the more people you meet the higher chance you have to dig your soul mates out. You can add more activities and social buzzes to your current life, little by little, till you find out the best channel to express yourself and interact with the incredible others.

It's part of life. When traveling, we will meet some paths that are scenic, some paths that are just blank. They are all parts of the journey. Don't consider only beautiful passages deserve to be enjoyed, and the plain un-exotic route shall be dead walked. Walk both paths mindfully. When there's a bright day, there comes a grey evening. Both are golden moments of our day. Live lively during the day, and enjoy the peacefulness out of the night. Every moment of life is living. Don't live alive in some moments and stay dead in the other. Accept whatever scenario life has to offer, and act the drama out of it.

Although coffee is bitter, it is one of the most favorited drinks in the world. Rather than resisting the bitter beverage, try to blend it with right amount of sugar and cream. Mix it to the perfect flavor that meets your taste and boosts your life. You will learn to enjoy the coffee.

重点注释：

suffer from 遭受痛苦
suffer from 与......分离
all the way 一直，完全，一路上
reinvigorate 使再振作，使复兴
rectify 改正，矫正
accumulate 累积
exotic 吸引人的
vicious 恶的, 邪恶的
resonate 产生回声、共鸣或共振
come up with 追赶上；提出，想出；准备好

"Whoever cannot spend two-thirds of the day alone, doing what he pleases, is a slave."
：“不管谁独处三到四天，即使是做他最喜欢的事情，也会变成一种煎熬。”

汉语译文

当前，孤独症已经成为一些人的家常菜—他们每天都承受着由此带来的痛苦，他们经历着孤独带来的苦涩—通常在中午的时候引起关注，而感到无助。

有些孤独感是源于常年独自生活，独立让他们变得与世隔绝。甚至一些居住在交往密集的地方，但他们仍感觉像个局外人，远离其他人。

孤独感通常被认为是一种消极情绪，这样的人感觉像蓝色以至于他们向往蓝色，甚至想去体验。他们内心感觉空虚，整日无所事事，他们内心和表面上都布满阴云。孤独症已经成为现代社会的常见病。所以，如何处置好以让人们重获健康快乐已经迫在眉睫。

第一点：不要责怪它，尽管这真的是一种病，过度关注也是收效甚微的。责怪自己的孤单以及无法帮助他人。这些只会加重你的孤独感，甚至让你感觉到绝望。

你要意识到，不管你现在的情况如何，都是因为你一开始的选择一步步走到今天的。你做了选择，就要为你目前的生活负责。接受它，并且开始改变现状。每件积极的事情都开始于认可。

第二点：不要攀比

大部分的痛苦来源于攀比，来自于我们复杂思想中的痛苦远比孤单处境本身多得多。当我们阅读的时候，就会想起与自己心爱的人一起用餐或者一起看十次电影会更有趣，就会断送单独看书的美好。当我们漫步在名胜中，只想着能跟一位浪漫的同伴同行的话，就会葬送你自己的浪漫时光。

总是有好的事情没有做，有更多有趣的东西去实践，如果你一直这样想、一直做比较，你就会掉入恶性循环而不能获得足够的愉悦感。停下攀比，试着去喜欢你自己手中美味的派，而不要去想着是不是有一个更大或者更美味的派。平静地阅读你手中的书籍，那十分美妙。从容地在风景中漫步，也是非常美好的。你现在所做的每一件事情都是美好的。你这样想，生活就会鲜活起来。

第三点：享受生活。尼采曾经说过：“不管谁独处三到四天，即使是做他最喜欢的事情，也会变成一种煎熬。”适当的独处可以很好的满足个人的私生活。当你独处的时候，你可以独立思考问题而不会被其他人打断，即便是无意识的。当你享受独处的时候你就会倾听自己的内心，并且会向着你心中的目标前进。享受独处的黄金期，表现真正的自我，寻找你经常试图向外界寻找的问题的正确答案，但其实就在你的心中。

第四：为生计而苦恼。接受现状以使你的生活朝平衡发展，逐步发生改变。如果你手中的派真的可以改良的话，坚持不懈地去做直到你可以做出一个更好的。

多一些交际，加入到你真正觉得有归属感并且真正与其中成员有互动的团体中去。打开你的心扉去认识更多的人。根据机会法则，你见面的人越多，找到音的概率就越大。你可以在你当前的生活中有更多的活动和社交，然后渐渐地，直到你找到表达自己的正确方法，并且与其他人交往。

这是生活的一部分，旅行时，我们会遇到一些风景优美的小径，但是光线暗淡。这，也是旅行的一部分。不要想着只有华丽的通道值得去观赏，而那些没有风景的小径就可以视而不见。在两种道路上都要用心去走。在一个阳光明媚的日子里，迎来了昏暗的黄昏，这些都是一天中的黄金时光。在白天充满生气地生活，在夜里享受平静。生活中的每刻都是鲜活的。不要在一些时候有生气而在另一些时候又没有生气。接受你所遇到的一切，并且从中吸取经验。

尽管咖啡是苦涩的，但它是全世界最受欢迎的饮品之一。与其经受苦涩，不如试着去加点糖和奶油，混合成完美的味道以符合你的味觉和提升你的生活质量。那样，你就学会了享用咖啡。

小编有约：
亲爱的朋友们，你们有感到孤独的时候吗？你们是怎么让“孤独”跑掉的呢？