爱情专家

1. Love relationship researchers can predict who will divorce. Psychologists can not only predict which couples will divorce, they also know when. Annette Bening and Kevin Spacey’s marriage in American Beauty is a perfect example of typical mid-life marital problems. “These couples are alienated and avoidant. They are the people you see in a restaurant who are not talking to each other,” said University of California professor John Gottman. “They raise kids together, but there is not much going on with each other and they realize their marriage is empty. These couples stifle things and do not raise issues with their partner. Their marriages are a suppression of negative emotions and a lack of positive emotions. It is a very passive and distant relationship with no laughing, love or interest in each other. This style of suppression can cause intense loneliness that’s almost like dying.”
爱情专家可以看出哪些夫妻会走向离婚的道路，甚至知道他们分开的时间。

男人为婚姻牺牲的更多

2. Men, not women, sacrifice for their relationships. You can’t tell me you knew this tip for a romantic relationship: research from two different universities discovered that men maybe more likely than women to sacrifice achievement goals for a romantic relationship. Even the researchers didn’t expect men to give priority to a relationship over their professional goals. Since the study participants were college students, these findings may not apply to long-term marriages…but it’s interesting that men are more likely to chase wedded bliss than women!
男人为婚姻牺牲的更多。美国一项调查显示男人比女人更喜欢拥有一个稳定的婚姻。

幸福婚姻

3. There is one secret to a happy marriage. A husband’s emotional engagement is the single most important factor in determining marital happiness – wedded bliss – for a wife. University of Virginia researchers found that women care more about being understood, having their needs met, and spending quality time with their husbands than money or household chores. Here’s a love secret for men: be vulnerable and affectionate with your wives – especially if this is your second marriage.
幸福婚姻的唯一秘诀——对女人来说，男人在结婚前的承诺是女人婚姻幸福的唯一重要因素。

不结婚的人

4. People who never married risk an early death. Never married men between ages 19 and 44 are more than twice as likely to die early as their married peers. Even though the unmarried men in this study exercised more and were less overweight, they were more socially isolated. Never married women weren’t as vulnerable to early death…but I think this marriage secret does depend on the quality of your marriage! Unhappy marriages may lead to unhealthy partners.
一辈子不结婚的人容易早死。调查显示，在19岁到44岁的男人当中，结过婚的比没结婚的死的早得多。

女权主义者

5. Feminists have happier, more romantic relationships. In the past, research showed that both men and women thought that feminism and romance couldn’t co-abide together. However, Rutgers University researchers found that feminist women have healthier relationships, more satisfaction with physical intimacy, and more stable marriages. Since feminism and romance aren’t incompatible, a love secret for a romantic relationship may include switching up gender roles a little.
女权主义者拥更容易拥有美好的婚姻。以前人们总认为女权主义者与幸福的婚姻背道而驰，现在研究表明事实并非如此。

失败的婚姻

6. Unhappy marriages are harder on wives. UCLA researchers found that when husbands go home after work, their stress hormone cortisol is dramatically reduced whether or not they’re happily married. In contrast, wives enjoy lower cortisol levels after work only if they’re happily married. If they’re unhappy, their cortisol increases when they get home. Cortisol is a result of chronic stress and can lead to depression, chronic fatigue, and possibly even cancer. Knowing about this love secret can improve your health — and maybe even save your life.
失败的婚姻对女人的伤害比男人要大的多，研究表明男人下班回家后，无论家庭是否美满，他们都会得到放松，而女人只能在幸福的家庭中得到放松。

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