What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, but they don't tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence -- the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others -- can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success.
是什么让某些人在工作和生活中比他人更成功呢？智商和职业道德固然重要，但却只是冰山一角。情商——也就是人们处理自己及他人情绪的方式，在幸福和成功上扮演着至关重要的角色。
Not sure how emotionally intelligent you are? Here are 14 signs you have a high EQ.
还不清楚自己的情商到底怎样？下面14个信号就告诉你：你其实拥有高情商！
1. You're curious about people you don't know.
你对不认识的人感到好奇。
Do you love meeting new people, and naturally tend to ask lots of questions after you've been introduced to someone? If so, you have a certain degree of empathy, one of the main components of emotional intelligence.
你是不是喜欢结交新朋友、介绍后会忍不住问各种问题？如果这样，说明你具备一定的共鸣感——这是情商的一个重要因素。
2. You're a great leader.
你是一个优秀的领导。
Exceptional leaders often have one thing in common. In addition to the traditional requirements for success -- talent, a strong work ethic and ambition, for instance -- they possess a high degree of emotional intelligence.The higher the rank of a person considered to be a star performer, the more emotional intelligence capabilities showed up as the reason for his or her effectiveness.
优秀领导通常都有一个共同点。除了禀赋、良好的职业道德和勃勃雄心等传统的成功品质，他们还有非常高的情商。一个人越是业绩斐然，其高效背后的情商也就越突出。
3. You know your strengths and weaknesses.
你清楚自己的优缺点。
A big part of having self-awareness is being honest with yourself about who you are -- knowing where you excel, and where you struggle, and accepting these things about yourself. An emotionally intelligent person learns to identify their areas of strength and weakness, and analyze how to work most effectively within this framework.
“自知”很大部分就是要诚实面对自我——清楚知道自己擅长什么又不在行什么，然后接受这样的自己。情商高的人懂得看清自己的优缺点，然后在此基础上想办法做到最好。
4. You know how to pay attention.
你懂得如何集中注意力。
Do you get distracted by every tweet, text and passing thought? If so, it could be keeping you from functioning on your most emotionally intelligent level. But the ability to withstand distractions and focus on the task at hand is a great secret to emotional intelligence.
你会不会因为每条推特、短信或杂念而分心？倘若如此，那可不利于你好好发挥情商。情商的一大秘诀就在于抵制诱惑、专注当下。
5. When you're upset, you know exactly why.
你明白自己为何心烦意乱。
We all experience a number of emotional fluctuations throughout the day, and often we don't even understand what's causing a wave of anger or sadness. But an important aspect of self-awareness is the ability to recognize where your emotions are coming from and to know why you feel upset.
人们平常都会遇到一些情绪波动，而且往往并不清楚愤怒或难过背后的原因。而自知的重点就是能明白引起情绪低落的根源。
6. You can get along with most people.
你能和大多数人相处好。
Having fulfilling, effective relationships -- that's a sign of emotional intelligence.
高情商的一个标志就是——拥有愉快而有益的人际关系。
7. You care deeply about being a good, moral person.
你竭力要求自己做善良有道德的人。
One aspect of emotional intelligence is our "moral identity," which has to do with the extent to which we want to see ourselves as ethical, caring people. If you're someone who cares about building up this side of yourself (regardless of how you've acted in past moral situations), you might have a high EQ.
“道德性”也是情商的一方面，即人们是否愿意成为有道德有爱心的人。如果你很注重培养自己这一素质（不管以前道德如何），那么你可能拥有高情商。