(单词翻译:单击)
“You'll never succeed.”
你永远不会成功了。
“You're not good enough.”
你不够好。
“You might as well give up now.”
你最好现在放弃吧。
Chances are, you're hearing things like that every single day.
很可能的情况是,你会几乎每天听到这些话。
They don't come from your friend, or even your enemies.
这些话不是从你朋友口中说出,亦不是你的敌人。
They come from inside your own head.
它们来自你的大脑。
Perhaps you're working towards a big goal: like losing weight and getting fit, or starting up your own business. You might have big ambitions ...but you've also got to fight a battle against those internal voices.
也许你在朝着一个大目标努力,比如说减肥瘦身,或者创业。你也许有野心......不过你还需与自己内心的这些声音战斗。
You're not the only person who feels that way. We all have to struggle against self-doubt. And we can all overcome those negative, destructive thoughts that hold us back from reaching our goals.
你不是唯一一个有这种感觉的人。我们都会与自我怀疑斗争。而且我们都能战胜哪些消极的,有破坏性,会阻挠我们成功的想法。
1. Remember What You've Already Accomplished 回忆那些你已经做到的事情
You've managed to achieve lots of amazing things already. Perhaps you’ve made direct progress towards your goal: you've lost 10lbs, so you know you can go on and lose another 10.
你也许以及做到了一些了不起的事。也许你已经朝你的目标迈步,比如说你已经减掉了10磅,所以你能继续减10磅。
Even if your goal is brand-new, you can draw on past accomplishments. Maybe you're overwhelmed by everything you need to learn in order to get your graduate degree...but you can remember how your hard work paid off when you were an undergraduate, or a high school student.
即使你的目标是全新不同的,你也可以引用过去的成就鼓励自己。也许你正被研究生学历弄得焦头烂额……但你可以想想你在本科时的努力获得过回报,或者在高中时期的事。
Do it: Write down three things that you've accomplished. It doesn't matter how big or small they are.
这样做:写下三件你完成过的事。这些事或大或小,但这并不重要。
2. Act Confident 表现得自信
Even if you don't feel at all confident, you can behave as if you are. Once you start acting confident, you'll begin to believe in yourself.
即使你内心一点也不自信,你可以表现得很自信一样。一旦你开始假装自信,你就会开始相信自己了。
Let's say you've started doing freelance photography on the weekends, and you've got your first few paying gigs. Your clients don't need to know that you're new to this. They don't need to hear about how nervous you are. If you behave like a professional, they'll see you as one – and you'll start to see yourself through their eyes.
加入你开始在周末兼职摄影,并且你已经获得了少量的酬薪。所以,你的客人不需要知道你是个新手。他们也不会听到你有多么的紧张。如果你表现地很专业,他们就会正视你,你也可以从他们的眼中看到自己的存在。
Do it: Figure out one way in which you could act confident, starting right now.
这样做:找出表现自信的方法,现在就开始做。
Whenever I've tackled a big goal in my own life – like losing weight or starting my own business – I've been inspired by stories from others.
每当我着手实现一个目标时,比如说减肥或者创业,我就会从他人的故事中汲取灵感。
Lots of people have achieved the goals that you're working towards. Many of those people will have started off in a worse position than you: they were more overweight, or more deeply in debt, or struggling in all sorts of ways. But they still succeeded ... and so can you.
许多人以及达到了你正在努力的目标。这其中很多人一开始的境遇比你要差:他们更加肥胖,或者欠债更多,总之在许多方面挣扎着。但他们最终还是成功了。所以说,你也能成功。
Do it: Look for a book or blog written by someone tackling a similar goal to yours, and read a little bit every day.
这样做:读一本书,这本书的作者曾有过和你类似的目标,每天读一点。4. Ask For Feedback from a Professional 询问专业人士的意见
You might have spent months or years honing your skills in a particular area, but you' re still worried that you're not good enough.
你也许花了很长时间钻研你在某一方面的技术,但你依然担忧你做得不够好。
Find someone professional, and ask them for their opinion. If you're hoping to write a best-selling novel, hire a writing coach or editor. If you're planning to start up a restaurant, ask for advice from someone who's done the same thing. You'll find out that you're doing a lot of things right (and you'll also get a few tips on how to make improvements).
于是,找专业人士,问问他们的意见吧。如果你希望写一部热销的小说,就找个写作指导或者编辑。如果你想开个饭馆,你可以向开饭馆的人请教。你会发现你做的很多事情都是正确的(当然,你也会得到一些启示来提升自己。)
Do it: Consider hiring a coach, or joining a small group or class. You could look locally or online.
这样做:考虑下找个指导员,或者加入一个小组或者班级。你可以从附近或者网上找找看。5. Collect Compliments and Testimonials 收集些激励语及感言
If you're working on a long-term goal, chances are that you've have some nice comments from other people. Perhaps your friend told you how great you look now that you've lost a few pounds, or your first clients raved about what a great job you did for them.
如果你的目标是长期的,你将很可能从别人那边获得一些良好的评价。也许你的朋友告诉你,因为少了几磅肉,现在的你看上去多么的棒。或者你的第一批客户对你表示感激,说你为他们提供了一份多么了不起的工作。
Make sure you keep any encouraging words that you hear. Write down what your friends say. Save all those “thank you” emails. Post your testimonials on your website for the world to read. All of these positive, encouraging voices will help to quiet the demons of self-doubt.
确保你保留了所有你听到的鼓励的言语。写下你朋友们说的话,收集所有表示“感谢”的邮件,在网站上面写下客户的感言,让全世界的人都看到。所有这些积极的行动,鼓励的声音能够帮助你更加自信。
Do it: Look through your emails for any positive feedback, and print it out.
这样做:翻出邮件中所有的积极反馈,并打印出来吧。6. Plan Your Next Few Steps 计划你的未来
One of the best ways to overcome self-doubt is to have a clear plan. It's easy to start thinking “I'll never do it” if you don't know what your next steps are.
克服不自信最好的办法之一就是制定一个明朗的计划。如果你从不做计划,很容易陷入这样的消极想法:“我永远也做不成。”
A clear plan lets you break things down into manageable chunks. It highlights any areas where you'll need to do further research or get some help. It takes any vague worries and fears and forces them out into the light – where you'll be able to see plenty of ways to overcome them.
一个明朗的计划可以帮助你把事情分成容易操作,循序渐进的几个部分。这样可以很明显的划出你需要作深入研究或者寻求帮助的部分。这样可以排除你的忧虑,恐惧和阻力,因为你通过计划单可以很容易地找到克服难题的多种方法。