赞扬自己

It's a frustrating situation. Your best friend is so pretty and gets all the guys, and always has what you want but can't have. Or maybe your best mate has the girl you want and is allowed to stay out way later, and even get a job. You want to hate your best friend, yet you love them because you guys get along really well and they're so nice. If you're looking to overcome the complicated feeling of jealousy of your best friend, this is the article for you.

1.Work on your self esteem. It's easier to become jealous of people around you if you aren't happy with yourself. Accept and work on your flaws, love and enchance your good points. Don't automatically think you're ugly or unlucky.
赞扬自己。如果你对自己很不满意，你就会很容易羡慕身边的人，扬长避短，不要总想着自己的短处。

问问自己想要什么

2.Work out if there is something specific you want. Maybe you're only jealous because he or she has the exact handbag or hairdo you've always wanted.
问问自己想要什么。有时候我们会因为别人拥有我们想要的包或发型而嫉妒。

写下自己拥有的东西

3.Write down a list of the things you have. A lot of people honestly don't realise how much they have. You could be miserable and think you have nothing because your crush likes your best friend instead, while forgetting to be grateful about the fact that you're family is more loving than theirs, you're allowed out later, etc.
写下自己拥有的东西。很多人总是不记得去珍惜自己拥有的一切，不会感恩。

交谈

4.Talk. Sometimes just talking to him or her can really solve the issue. Chat to them about how you feel and the way you think it may be effecting your friendship.
交谈。与你嫉妒的对象进行一场真诚的交谈，这对你们的友谊有帮助。

学会控制

5.Try to develop a habit. For example, everytime you have a jealous, negative thought about your best friend, do five push-ups. Everytime you think a positive thought, reward yourself with your favourite candy.
学会控制。譬如，每当你发现自己嫉妒别人的时候，你就做5个俯卧撑，嫉妒情绪过后，给自己好好补偿一下。

6.Check out the related links. They can help you on your way of overcoming your jealousy of your best friend.
找出嫉妒的原因。这样有益于控制你的嫉妒情绪。

没有人是完美的

7.Remember that your best friend doesn't have everything. It may seem like they have it all, but there'll always be something you have that they don't. You just have to think hard to find it.
没有人是完美的，包括被你嫉妒的人。总有些东西你有，而他或她却没有的，好好想想。

正面思考

8.Just be positive. Live life. Enjoy what you have.
正面思考。珍惜你所拥有的。

时间可以冲淡一切

9.This will take time, so be patient and work slowly. Set small goals for yourself, or work thoroughly on each step before moving onto the next one.
时间可以冲淡一切。好好做手上的事情，一步一步，脚踏实地。

建立自信

10.Build self confidence. Jealousy is usually a by-product of insecurity and low self-esteem. Sometimes it's a deep-rooted fear of abandonment that someone will leave you, or withdraw their love or attention from you because you're "not good enough"--if so, you need to learn that other people's behavior and lives are not a reflection on you.
建立自信。嫉妒是缺乏安全感和自尊的表现。很多时候，也是一种害怕自己被抛弃的表现。

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