自我分析

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. — Oscar Wilde
Being yourself is celebrating you, as an individual - learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. For some people, it's learning to love yourself, for others, it's not hiding who you are or changing things about you to fit in. So read on to know how to express the inner you.

1 Define yourself. You can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them and not let them define you. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you've made; they're done and in the past, so there is no use crying over spilled milk.
进行全方位的的自我分析。如果你不清楚自己的目标，不接受自己，你就很难给自己定位，花时间去评估自己，并想想自己的生活和自己的理想。

走自己的路

2 Stop caring about how people perceive you. The fact is, it really doesn't matter. It's impossible to be yourself when you're caught up in wondering "Do they think I'm funny? Does she think I'm fat? Do they think I'm stupid?" To be yourself, you've got to let go of these concerns and just let your behavior flow, with only your consideration of others as a filter — not their consideration of you. Besides, if you change yourself for one person or group, another person or group may not like you, and you could go around in a vicious cycle trying to please people; it's totally pointless in the end, and it leaves you exhausted. However, if someone you trust and respect critiques aspects of who you are, feel free to judge (honestly) whether or not it is accurate instead of accepting or dismissing the critique unconditionally.
走自己的路，让别人去说吧！别人的看法并不重要，如果一直担心别人如何看待自己，就很难真正做到自己。

诚实热情

3 Be honest and open. What have you got to hide? We're all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself — and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally — then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don't beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest.
诚实热情。为什么让自己藏起来？每个人都不是完美的，每个人都是在成长的过程中慢慢成熟。

学会放松

4 Relax. Stop worrying about the worst that could happen, especially in social situations. So what if you fall flat on your face? Or get spinach stuck in your teeth? Learn to laugh at yourself both when it happens and afterwards. Turn it into a funny story that you can share with others. It lets them know that you're not perfect and makes you feel more at ease, too. It's also an attractive quality for someone to be able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously!
学会放松。不要总是杞人忧天，庸人自扰，尤其在和别人交往的时候。很多时候，甚至可以一笑而过，把不开心的事当成自己的笑话和朋友分享。

挖掘自己的个性

5 Develop and express your individuality. Whether it's your sense of style, or even your manner of speaking, if your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it... unless it's destructive to yourself or others. Be a character, not a type.
挖掘并发展自己的个性。无论是你的风格，你的说话方式，如果你敢于脱离大流，那么就去坚持做下去。

每一天都与众不同

6 Have a productive day. Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and that some days, you're the statue. People might raise eyebrows and even make fun, but as long as you can shrug and say "Hey, that's just me" and leave it at that, people will ultimately respect you for it, and you'll respect yourself.
让每一天都与众不同。纵使有的时候你会这样，有的时候你会那样，别人或许会嘲笑你，但是你只要笑着说“是的，这就是我！”就够了。

相信自己

7 Believe in who you are. If you're always working to be someone you're not, you'll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you're proud of the way you are! Nobody knows you better than you and that's how it should be. You deserve to be your own best friend, so start trying to figure out how you can do that. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you?
Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point. Love and accept yourself as you are now.
相信自己。如果你一直逼着自己去成为一个你认为很好的人，你就不会幸福。

坚持自己的风格

8 Follow your own style. The common thing a lot of people do is copy other's actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn't you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people's perspectives of you. Even if it's not something you would normaly do; that's what being yourself is all about. Maybe you like to sit outside on the deck under a umbrella in the middle of the rain, maybe you have different ideas of things, rather than other people, maybe you like strawberry cake instead of the common chocolate cake, whatever you are, accept it. Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you.
坚持自己的风格。很多人都喜欢追逐潮流，为什么你也一定要这样呢？试着找到自己的风格，作出你自己。

尊重别人

9.There's a big difference between being yourself and being rude.You might have your opinions, dreams, and preferences, but so does everyone else. You shouldn't disrespect people who disagree with you; they have the privilege of being themselves just as you do. Conversely, don't agree with something you honestly don't think is right; just don't try to force your opinions on other people.
尊重别人。做自己不等于粗鲁。你可以有自己的观点，意见，梦想，但请同时尊重他人。

我就是我

10.As the famous song goes, "Life's not worth a damn, until you can say 'I am what I am.' " When you can sincerely say it, you will know that you can be yourself.
我就是我。正如一首歌里唱的“我必须做自己，否则生活就一文不值”。当你理解这句话的时候，你已经做到自己了。

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