英文原文

If you really want to have success with women then you need to learn the right way to attract a woman. What I mean by this is that you have to avoid doing what 99% of all men do. When most men approach a woman they usually don't have any confidence, they don't sustain any meaningful eye contact, and they lack the necessary social skills to generate attraction from an initial conversation. The good news is that talking to a woman the right way is a learned skill. And just like reading a book or riding a snowboard anyone can learn how to talk to a woman the right way.

There are three basic types of conversation that you can have with a woman. The first type, is known as an informational conversation. This is when you are talking to a woman and you are simply giving her information about a topic in a very blasé or scientific way. Talking about your next job assignment is a good example of this. Obviously, this does not generate attraction. This could be the reason why many scientists have trouble getting a date. The second type of conversation is known as a one-way conversation. This can be either a man talking mostly about himself and not allowing a woman to get in a word in edgewise or this could mean that the man does not know how to engage or challenge a woman so that she will want to engage him back.

The third kind of conversation is known as a two-way conversation and this has a higher likelihood of generating attraction in a woman because she is now fully engaged with you. But having a two-way conversation is not enough to get a woman attracted to you. You must also be in total alignment with who you are as a confident male. Women are not attracted to men who don't know what they want in life. Women are also not attracted to men that don't have a spine. If you always cave into her demands, then she will actually get bored of you .

You will notice that in your many interactions with different kinds of women that they are going to challenge you. This is their way of testing you to see if you are who you say you are. So while you are trying to have a conversation with her she might start to become interested in you. One thing that I've learned over the years is that women love to test men. So they will do things that might seem a little strange. Out of the blue she might ask you to buy her a drink. She might also excuse herself to the bathroom and then on the way there she will stop and talk to a guy that she knows. And she's not doing this to be mean, she is simply going to see if you will get jealous. An insecure man gets jealous and a man who is not insecure won't. So watch out for these tests because they happen all the time.

Some things to keep in mind when you are talking to a woman.

1. Maintain eye contact longer than normal.
2. Make sure you have confident body language.
3. Ask her open-ended questions and then let her run with it.
4. Don't talk too much about yourself and never brag about your job, your money, or your car because these things only communicate insecurity.
5. Make sure you're well-groomed. This will communicate that you care about your appearance and that you have self-respect.
6. Ask for her contact information when your conversation is at it's conclusion.
7. Do not hang around too long unless you plan on getting her alone so you can really build up the rapport. Otherwise change locations or get her contact information and then leave.

By following these guidelines you are going to be much better off than the competition. So the next time you go online or you are at a coffee shop or you are in a bookstore make sure you keep the these guidelines and mind and your chances of success will skyrocket.

中文译文　　

你若想对女人成功，就要学会吸引女人的正确方法。我的意思是，你得避免99%的男人都犯的错误。大多数男人接近女人时，他们通常都无自信，他们没有保持意味深长的眼神接触，而且缺乏必要的社交技巧以在初次谈话中产生吸引力。好消息是，正确和女人交谈是已知的一门技巧了，每个人都能像读书或玩滑雪板那样地去学习如何正确地同女人交谈。

与女人交谈有三种基本类型。第一种，被称作信息型交谈。这就是当你和女人谈话时，你只是就每个主题用非常司空见惯或科学性的方式给她灌输信息。谈论你的下一个工作安排就是一个很好的例子。显然，这无法产生吸引力。这可能就是为什么许多科学家在约会时遇到麻烦的原因吧。第二种交谈类型被称为单向交谈。这可以是男人大多数时间都谈论他自己，而不让女人插上一句话，也可以是男人不知道怎样吸引女人，或不知道如何向女人发出挑战，因此女人便会反过来去吸引他。

第三种交谈类型被称作双向交谈，这才具有较高可能性去制造对女人的吸引力，因为此时她完全被你吸引住了。但拥有双向交谈还不足以让女人被你吸引。你还必须完全清楚自己是谁，如同一个自信的男人。女人不会被那些不知道自己在生活中想要什么的男人所吸引。女人也不会对没有脊梁骨的男人吸引，你若总是对她唯命是从，那么她就会真的对你感到厌烦。

你会注意到，在你和各种类型的女人进行的交流中，她们会向你发出挑战。这是她们用来测试你的一种方法，以便看看你是不是你所说的那个你。所以当你试着和她交谈时，她可能开始慢慢对你发生了兴趣。多年来我所学到的一件事是，女人喜欢测试男人。因此，她们会做一些可能看起来怪怪的事情。她可能会突然要你给她买一杯饮料，她还可能借故去洗手间，然后再半路上停下来和她认识的男人聊天。她不是因为卑鄙而这样做，她只不过想看看你是否妒忌罢了。不可靠的男人会妒忌，而可靠的男人则不会。所以，要当心这些测试，因为它们无时不在。

当你同女人交谈时，要牢记下列事项：

1. 保持眼神接触，要长于正常时间。
2. 确保你具有自信的肢体语言。
3. 问她一些可以自由回答的问题，然后让她自行发挥。
4. 勿要过多谈论自己，永远不要夸耀你的工作、金钱、或汽车，因为这些东西只是传达出不可靠的信息。
5. 确保边幅修整。这会传达出这样的信息：你注重自己的外表，并且你自尊自重。
6. 在交谈结束时，向她要联系方式。
7. 不要泡得太长，除非你盘算着得到与她独处的机会从而得以真正确立关系。否则，就换个地方，或者要到她联系方式，然后走人。

遵照上述准则，你将会在竞争中更进一步。那么下次当你上网、或在咖啡店、或在书店时，留意这些准则并遵行之，那么你成功的机会就会急剧飙升。

词汇

1. sustain 长期保持；使继续

We do not have enough money to sustain our campaign for long.
我们没有足够的财力使宣传活动长期保持下去。

2. likelihood n.可能，可能性

I don't think there is any likelihood of his agreeing to it.
我认为不会有他同意那件事情的可能。

3. out of the blue 出其不意；出乎意料

Her son, who left her more than thirty years ago, came out of the blue.
她三十多年前离开的儿子出乎意料地回来了。

4. open-ended adj. 可修整的，末端开口的，自由回答的

George Bush this morning ordered 21,500 more US troops to Iraq to try to quell sectarian violence, but promised a war-weary public that "America's commitment is not open-ended".
今早布什派遣21500多名美军前往伊拉克平息宗派暴力事件。但他同时向厌倦了战争的公众承诺：美国的承诺不是无限制的。

5. keep in mind 记住

I'll keep your advice in mind.
我要把你的劝告记在心里。

6. well-groomed adj. 衣着考究的；干净整洁的；衣冠楚楚的

They chose him for the job because he always looks so well groomed.
他们选他担任该职务，因为他总是衣冠整齐。

7. hang around 闲逛，闲待着；耽搁，延误；迫近，即将来临

Since he lost his job, he's been hanging around here.
他失业后一直在这里闲着。

Don't hang around—we have a train to catch!
不要耽搁, 我们要赶火车呢!

There is rain hanging around.
马上要下雨了。

8. skyrocket vi. 突升, 猛涨

The price of sugar has suddenly skyrocketed up.
糖价突然飞涨。

语法和句型讲解

1.If you really want to have success with women then you need to learn the right way to attract a woman.
你若想对女人成功，就要学会吸引女人的正确方法。

have success with...表示“在（某事上）……成功”

例如：He have score a great success with his new play.
他的那出新戏获得了极大的成功。

2. What I mean by this is that you have to avoid doing what 99% of all men do.
我的意思是，你得避免99%的男人都犯的错误。

avoid doing sth.表示“避免做某事”

例如：You must avoid making decisions in a hurry.
你切忌仓促做出抉择。

3. If you always cave into her demands, then she will actually get bored of you.
你若总是对她唯命是从，那么她就会真的对你感到厌烦。

这句中文大家应该很熟了吧，那么它的英文表达，你记住了吗？

cave into one's demand “对……唯命是从”

get bored of...表示“对……厌倦”

例如： You've participated in boxing for so many years, you never get bored of it?
你从事拳击这么久，有没有感到厌倦？