So, whats wrong with sex before marriage? “A lot of people look for the correct person, but they don’t worry about becoming the correct person.”

Would you like your future life partner to be somebody who has slept with a numerous amount of people and knows the body and intimacy of those who will in the future become strangers in your relationship?

Or, would you prefer somebody who wants to have that experience with you and only you because they know that sex is something serious?

Would you prefer spending your life with someone who has been within 50 different relationships, or with someone who has never had a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Does it not sound better if both can be able to learn form each others sexuality rather than permitting your partner to learn with others? Would it not sound better to be your partners first and last? Yours and only yours.

Not every body thinks this way. But be honest to yourself, isn’t this better than what common society tells us?

Now I understand that many might say that “nobody waits for marriage anymore”. But this is the exact same reason why we have so many problems when it comes to the topic of sex:

The exact same reason why people suffer from so much “emotional baggage”. The exact same reason why HIV is a top threat to modern society. The same reason why so many people die from AIDS. The top reason of so many abortions. The seed reason for why more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce because of infidelity .

So, whats wrong with sex before marriage? All that is stated above.

Now a sexual experiences is not just any type of experience. It is something that stays recorded in the mind permanently. When this is lived with someone, that person becomes more than just anybody for you.

When a relationship is over, people tend to say that “it is the past”. But the truth is that it’s not in the past because the past forms part of your present and your future. What ever was done in the past becomes part of you for the rest of your life consciously or subconsciously.

Proof of this is the knowledge you have of everything you know. This would include the alphabet, numbers, the language that you speak, the people that you know and everything that you do on the daily basis, you owe it all to your past.

So when it comes to live that moment with that special someone, it would be almost inevitable to forget the past sexual experiences from others, staining the present moment with your beloved partner.

婚前性行为有何不妥呢？“人们都在寻找那个对的人，但他们都不担心自己成为那个对的人。”

你会希望你未来生活中的伴侣是一个曾和很多人发生过关系的人吗？还是你会愿意和那个了解你的身体又和你发生过关系的人在未来的日子里形同陌路？

或者，你更愿意某个人想要和你也只愿意和你发生关系，因为他们都知道性行为是很严肃的？

你是愿意和一个曾与50位不同异性发生过关系的人共渡一生，还是愿意接受一个从未有过男（女）朋友的人呢？

如果男女朋友可以互相学习性方面的知识应该好过让你的伴侣从别人那学会，这是不是听上去不是很恰当？对你的伴侣来说，你是第一次也是最后一次是不是听上去也不太合适？你希望你的伴侣是你的唯一。

并不是所有人都这么想，但老实说，这不是比社会常识告诉我们的更好吗？

现在我明白了很多人也许会说“没有人能等到结婚”的原因了，这和为什么我们面对性这个主题会有很多问题的理由是一样的。

像人们背负太多“精神包袱”的原因，HIV成为现代社会头号威胁的原因，如此多的人死于艾滋病的原因，造成太多流产的首要原因，还有超过50%的婚姻都走向离婚的根源都因为婚前性行为。

那么，婚前性行为到底有什么不妥之处呢？上面已经列举了所有情况了。

目前性经历不仅仅是一种经验了，这是某种在人的意识里留下永久记录的事物。当某个人和你发生关系，那这个人对你的意义就和其他任何人都不同了。

当一段关系结束了，人们总是说“这已经过去了”。但事实是那并没有过去，因为是过去组成了你的现在和将来。过去你不管做了什么，有意识或潜意识地它都会成为你下半生的一部分。

你所知道了解的所有知识就是证明。这可能包括字母表、数字、你说的语言、你认识的人和你每天必须要做的最基本的事，你对你的过去是负有责任的。

所以当你和那个特殊的人到了那一刻的时候，你过去曾和别人发生过关系的回忆几乎是不可能被你遗忘的，这也就玷污了和你所爱的人现在的这一刻。