have it both ways
脚踏两只船
A:My mother and my wife are always holding different ideas.
A:我母亲和我妻子意见总是不统一。
B:If you are really in love with your wife, you should be in support of her. You can't have it both ways, of course.
B：你要是真爱你妻子，就应该和她保持一致，你总不能两者兼顾吧。
A:You mean I should please her by following her suggestion?
A:你是说我该听她的，让她高兴?
B:Yeah, Love me, and love my dog.
B：是啊，爱屋及乌嘛。