For those who find the courage tentatively to ask for help, the pill for every ill is most often administered.
For decades tranquilizers, sleeping pills and anti-depressants have been given to generations of women - three times as many as to men!
These pills, these mother's little helpers have left a legacy of millions of women locked into a terrible torment, doomed to a life of dependence from which there is still very little help to escape.
More often than not they retreat into their own private hell behind closed doors.
Terrified to go out of their homes into what to them has become a frightening world.
Dealing with these pills has now become a greater problem than the 'condition' that caused them to be taken in the first place!
Recently, I met a woman who against the odds had succeeded in getting off the tranquilizers she had been prescribed to help with her post-natal depression.
She had been taking these pills for over thirty years!
Giving herself permission to give them up had not been easy but with specialist help she had won!
Her biggest realization was that during those years she had completely lost touch with her own identity.
She had now discovered that she was no longer the person others believed her to be.
The drugs had closed her down.
They had managed to turn her into an anxious zombie.
At last, she was now able to learn how to live again and become the person she was born to be.
Whether these drugs were given in a genuine attempt to help or whether they were offered as a means of making her more tranquil and acceptable to those around her, the effect can be the same.
These pills will tend to make a woman more passive to help her conform to the norm.
But whose norm is it?
Isn't it normal not to be able to cope all the time?
Isn't it normal for women as well as men to feel frustrated with life?
Isn't it normal to feel angry and want to change a situation that is hurting?