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Hey everyone, welcome back to Psych2go. Thank you for all the support and love you've given us.
各位，欢迎来到本期节目。感谢大家的支持和爱。
Now, let's begin. Are your friendships or relationships usually short-lived?
现在开始今天的节目。你的友谊或恋爱关系通常不能长久吗？
If yes, what do you think could be the underlying reason? What sorts of beliefs do you have about friendships and relationships?
若如此，你觉得根本原因会是什么呢？你对友谊和恋爱关系有什么样的信念？
Are those beliefs accurate, or are they distorted? When your beliefs are distorted,
这些信念是准确的，还是扭曲的？如果你的信念是扭曲的，
it can lead you to behaviors that sabotage your friendships and leave you neglecting yourself.
它会让你做出破坏友谊的行为，让你忽视自己。
In this video, we will be covering five distorted beliefs that will ruin your friendships and relationships.
在本期视频中，我们将揭露5种会毁了你的友谊和爱情的信念。
One: Am I replaceable? If you have ever felt replaced in a friendship or relationship before, you are not alone.
1. 我是可以被替代的吗？如果你曾经在一段友谊或恋爱中感到被取代，你并不是唯一的一个。
However, having the belief that you will always be replaced in future friendships or relationships
但相信自己在未来的友谊或恋爱中总会被取代，
may not be emotionally healthy for you.
可能对你的情绪健康不利。
Many of us hold on to this belief due to the fear of similar past experiences repeating itself.
我们很多人都抱有这种信念，因为害怕过去类似的经历重演。
But is it really helpful? Who knows?
但这样真的有所帮助吗？谁知道呢。
You might meet new friends or a special person who truly appreciates and treasures you for who you really are.
你可能会遇到新的朋友或一个特别的人，他们真正欣赏并珍惜你。
Two: I am meant to be alone.
2. 我注定要孤独。
Do you subconsciously tell yourself you're destined to be alone after difficult friendships or failed relationships?
你会在潜意识里告诉自己，在经历这么多困苦的友谊或失败恋爱后，你注定要孤身一人？
This belief of feeling like you are destined to be alone can be derived from the difficulty in communicating your thoughts and emotions
觉得自己注定要孤独的信念可以从交流你的思想和情绪的困难中产生，
which can result in feelings of loneliness.
这可能会导致孤独感。
If you feel like you are meant to be alone, you are not. You deserve to have friends or family who care about you.
如果你觉得自己注定孤，其实并不是。你值得拥有关心你的朋友和家人。
Three: Assuming they do not care.
3. 认为他们不在乎。
Adopting this belief can be detrimental to friendships and relationships as there is a presence of assumptions, mistrust,
这种信念可能会对友谊和恋情不利，因为假设、不信任
and miscommunication which could lead to disagreements.
和沟通不当的存在可能会导致分歧。
At times, your friends may give you the impression that they do not care, however, it may not always be the case.
有时你的朋友给你的印象是他们不在乎，但情况并非总是如此。
Different people show care differently, and different people have their own definitions of feeling cared for.
不同的人展现关心的方式不同，不同的人对被关心的感觉有不同的定义。
Four: Assuming they understand you.
4. 以为他们懂你。
Are you guilty of not communicating how you truly feel or think directly to others
你有没有因为没有把自己的真实感受或想法直接告诉别人而感到内疚
because you assume that they are able to read your mind and understand you?
因为你觉得他们能够读懂你的心并理解你？
Assumptions create uncertainty, and we may end up creating false scenarios in our minds which may lead to further misunderstanding.
这些假设会创造出不确定性，并且我们可能最终在脑海中创造出虚假的场景，这可能会导致进一步的误解。
Even the most intuitive people are not mind readers.
即使是最直觉敏锐的人也不会读心术。
Lastly: I am unlovable.
最后，我不招人喜欢。
Have you ever been labeled as unlovable or something similar by your parents, a lover, or ex-lover?
你曾经被你的父母、爱人或前爱人贴上不讨人喜欢或类似的标签吗？
How did you feel when they said that?
他们这么说你，你是什么感觉？
This might cause you to internalize this belief and behave in a way that will sabotage your relationships and friendships.
这可能会使你内化这种信念，从而破坏你的关系和友谊。
You are afraid to show others who you really are because you believe people would not like you if they knew the real you.
你害怕向别人展示真实的自己，因为你认为，如果他们了解了真实的你，他们就会不喜欢你了。
But do you really think this is true? So, why do many of us have beliefs like this?
但是你真觉得是这样吗？所以为什么我们这么多人有这样的想法呢？
Studies done by the American Psychological Association and others
由美国心理协会和其他机构进行的研究表明
have shown that our brains are wired to think negatively, and it can be a form of a defense mechanism.
我们的大脑倾向于消极思考，这可能是一种防御机制。
One important thing to understand is that friendships or relationships can come and go due to different reasons.
需要了解的重要一点是，友谊或恋情可以因不同的原因而来来去去。
Don't blame yourself too much if things do not work out.
如果事情没有成功，不要太责怪自己。
It can be difficult to open up to new friends or partners due to negative past experiences.
由于过去的消极经历，很难向新朋友或伴侣敞开心扉。
But the right person will be accepting of your flaws, and inspire you to be a better person.
但正确的人会接受你的缺点，并激励你成为一个更好的人。
How many of these beliefs were you able to relate to? How do you plan to challenge those beliefs?
你对以上那些信念有共鸣？你打算如何挑战这些信念？
Let us know in the comments below. Don't forget to share this video with someone who would find it helpful.
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