(单词翻译:单击)
Depression is already an exhausting and painful battle.
抑郁症已经是一场让人精疲力竭的痛苦战争。
Everyday chores get neglected, going to school and work becomes a struggle
对日常琐事的忽略、上学和工作也成为了挣扎
and it's hard to get out of bed every morning when your alarm goes off. The whole world is moving except for you.
每天闹钟响起，就连起床也变得困难。除了自己，整个世界都在运转。
It feels like someone pushed the pause button and your life stopped playing.
就像是有人按下了暂停键，你的生活停止运转。
You know you need to reach out to your parents but how?
你知道你需要需求父母的帮助，但是该如何说起呢？
We understand how intimidating it is to approach your parents when you need them the most.
我们知道当你在最需要父母的时候寻求他们帮助会有多么让人担心。
Here are five ways to talk about depression with your parents.
以下五种方法帮助你和父母谈论抑郁症。
1. Know that there's nothing wrong with asking for your parents' help.
1.要知道寻求父母的帮助是完全没有错的。
There's still a strong stigma attached to mental health disorders, like depression
谈起精神疾病，比如抑郁症总会有一种强烈的羞耻感，
which often makes people feel ashamed or embarrassed to talk about it. But know that you're not alone.
谈论抑郁症让人觉得羞愧或尴尬。但是要知道你并不是一个人。
In fact, according to the World Health Organization or WHO, 350 million people worldwide suffer from depression.
事实上，WHO表示，全球有3.5亿人患有抑郁症。
Though it may feel like depression can be an all-consuming disorder that takes a lot out of you,
虽然感觉抑郁症是一种非常消耗的疾病，
understand that it doesn't define who you are.
但是要知道它并不能定义你。
It's just something that you are unfortunately participating in,
你只是不幸的参与到了抑郁症之中，
which is why it is crucial to let your parents know that you need their support now more than ever.
所以让你的父母知道你非常需要他们的帮助，这一点非常关键。
Your depression can distort your own self-perceptions that affects your self-esteem.
你的抑郁症会扭曲你的自我知觉，影响你的自尊。
It can also create the fear of being vulnerable,
抑郁症也会制造出恐惧让你变得脆弱，
which is why you may have difficulty letting your parents know about your depression.
所以你害怕让你的父母知道你患有抑郁症。
But fear only has as much control as we allow.
但是一味退让，会让恐惧掌控全局。
2. Get yourself in a calm state before starting the conversation with your parents.
2.在开始和父母的交谈前，先让自己处于镇定状态。
You may feel scared, you'll be nervous or overwhelmed before approaching your parents about your depression.
在和父母谈论你的抑郁症前，你会感到害怕或紧张。
It's not an easy process so give yourself some credit for being brave.
这不是一个容易的过程，所以给自己一点信心，勇敢一点。
This is a huge step you're taking and you should be proud that you've acknowledged that you need their help.
你正在迈出巨大的一步，所以你应该对自己寻求父母帮助感到自豪。
If you're worried about having a breakdown or tearing out before any words can come out of your mouth,
如果你担心在话说出口前就崩溃或掉眼泪，
go out for some fresh air and take a walk to clear your mind or listen to some soothing music that can alleviate some of your anxiety.
请走出去呼吸新鲜空气、散步清理思绪或是听一些舒缓的音乐，让它们消除你的焦虑。
You can even invite your parents to go on the walk with you or go out for a relaxing drive that can lower your self-consciousness.
你可以邀请你的父母和你一同散步或是开车兜风，降低你自己的自我意识。
3. Let your parents know that your depression is not their fault or a reflection of their mistakes, flaws or failures.
3. 让你的父母知道你的抑郁症并不是他们的错，这不是由于他们的错误、缺点或失败导致的。
One reason why kids or teenagers often feel reluctant to approach their parents about their depression is because
孩子或青少年不愿意和父母谈起自己的抑郁症的原因之一就是
they're afraid their parents may take it the wrong way and start to blame themselves for not being better parents.
他们害怕父母们会把责任归咎在自己身上并开始责怪自己不是称职的父母。
The last thing you want to do is hurt your parents feelings or cause them to worry about you even more,
你最不想做的就是伤害父母的情感或是让他们担心自己，
especially if your family is already facing daily stressful situations
特别是，如果你的家庭已经遭遇了压力巨大的情况
whether that involves finances and illness, divorce or work-related problems that lead into your home.
不论是经济和疾病还是离婚或是工作相关的问题。
But understand that the effects of depression have been weighing you down and hindering your ability to perform your everyday tasks.
但是要知道抑郁症的影响不断压在你身上并妨碍了你进行日常工作的能力。
If you continue to shrug it off and try to wait it out, your condition may worsen over time,
如果你继续忽视耽搁的话，你的情况会更加糟糕，
which will concern your parents when the signs are harder to hide.
当情况无法隐藏的时候，会让父母更加担心。
4. If you don't want to approach your parents alone, you can talk to your guidance counselor or another professional and have them monitor the conversation.
4. 如果你不想独自告知父母，你可以告诉你的辅导员或是另一名专家，让他们指导你和父母间的对话。
If you're worried that you may need someone else by your side to help get the conversation flowing,
如果你担心自己可能需要陪伴才能让交谈进行的话，
you can make an appointment with your guidance counselor or another professional and invite your parents in one day to talk.
你可以和你的辅导员或专业人士约个时间，邀请你的父母进行一天的交谈。
Since professionals have been trained to handle situations like this,
因为专业人士经过专业训练能够处理这种情况，
they can also provide you with many valuable insights and offer helpful advice for you and your parents.
他们也可以给你们提供很多宝贵的建议并提供有用的建议。
The more support you receive, the better off you'll be, because you won't have to battle with your depression alone.
你受到的支持越多越好，因为你不是一个人在对抗抑郁症。
Talking to a professional can also open the doors for your parents to reach out,
专业人士也可以帮助打开你和父母之间的心门，
if they wish to express their concerns and seek answers for questions that may come up.
如果他们希望表达他们的关心并寻求问题的答案的话。
5. Let your parents know what you need from them and brainstorm a plan with them that can help you recover from your depression.
5. 告诉父母你需要什么并共同制定能够帮助你恢复的计划。
Communication is key. Your parents aren't mind readers, so let them know what to expect and what you need from them.
沟通是关键。你的父母不会读心术，所以清楚明确地告诉他们你需要什么。
Understand that the recovery is never a straightforward path, and inform your parents, too.
你和你的父母都需要知道，恢复绝不是一条简单的道路。
Even if your parents may not always understand where you're coming from, they can still try.
即使你的父母不知道抑郁症是怎么来的，他们仍会尝试。
Together, you can brainstorm ways that can help you get better.
你们可以一起想出让事情变得更好的方法。
Let them know that you are overwhelmed and that you may not be sure where to start.
让他们知道你要招架不住了，你也不确定该从哪开始。
You and your parents can create schedules that help you focus on one task at a time that don't require too much of your energy.
你和你的父母可以制定计划，帮助你一次专注一个任务，这样不会消耗你太多的精力。
Starting small is encouraged. Once you feel more capable of getting back into the swing of your usual routine,
鼓励从小事开始。一旦你感到可以回归正常事物，
you can begin to include more activities in your schedule.
你可以开始在日程计划中安排更多的活动。
Depression can slow you down, but your will to go on is what ultimately pulls you out of that darkness.
抑郁会拖慢你的脚步，但是你的继续前进最终会把你拉出深渊。
Do you have difficulty talking about depression with your parents?
你觉得和父母谈论自己的抑郁症会有困难么？
We understand that it's not easy and would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.
我们知道这并不容易，我们也愿意倾听的你的想法，请在下方留言。
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