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Doesn't feel good, doesn't feel right and we do, very often, everything that we can to get the two on par again.
感觉不舒服，不对劲，所以我们常常不惜一切，让两者统一
Either by changing the external reality or by changing our mind to match the external reality.
要么改变外部现实，要么改变自我思维以符合外部现实
We don't like when there is inconsistency.
我们不喜欢不一致
There are a few ways in which we can create this consistency again.
有好几种方法可以重建一致性
Let me share with you just some of them, and I'm gonna share four. They are interconnected.
我给大家介绍几个，我会讲4个，都是互相关联的
There is relationship between. there is overlap, but just so it helps you to think about it.
互相联系，还有重合之处，但这样能帮助你们就此进行思考
That helps you understand the dialogue that takes place between what is inside or what is inside and what is outside.
帮助你们理解内部与外部间发生的对话

So the first thing we can do when there is a discrepancy, when there is inconsistency between the two is update schema.
两者差异发生时，我们首先能做的就是更新图式
This is the first thing we can do.
这是第一种做法
So, I didn't know things fell when left in middle air, now I know, I updated my schema.
比如，原来我不知道松开手东西会掉下来，现在我知道了，于是我更新图式
Or, I thought that person was actually hateful, but I just saw him behave generously and benevolently, now I update my schema, he's a nice person.
又比如，我原来以为那人很可恶，但我看到他们对别人慷慨仁慈，于是我更新图式，他是个好人
The second thing that we do, which happens much more often than the first one, is ignore or discard in external information.
第二种做法通常比第一种更普遍，即忽视或抛弃外在信息
We ignore and discard external information that doesn't match our schema.
忽视或抛弃不符合图式的外部信息

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