重点讲解：

TIP 1: JUST DO YOU

Just do you. 做自己。"Do you" means "Do what you feel is best for you", in short, do you.

TIP 2: BE INDEPENDENT

Be an independent girl. 独立。

Don't be needy.

【牛津字典】needy adj. 一开始这个词的意思指的是贫穷的；然后有了一个衍生义： (of people 人) not confident, and needing a lot of love and emotional support from other people.

缺乏自信的；需要精神支持的

TIP 3: BE DECISIVE

Be a decisive girl. 不要老是纠结。

【MINI SHOW】

Peter (P)：Hey, babe. What do you want for lunch?

Jessica (J) : I don't know.

P: There is a Thai food place down this block. And there is a pizza place, too.

J: Hmmm, I don't know. It's a tough choice. I'm not sure. I don't know..

P: What do you want exactly? Do you like Thai food?

J: I guess it's alright. But...I'm not sure. I really don't know.

P: Well, how about the pizza place? BTW, Paul went there with Emily the other day, and he told me it is not bad.

J: Hmmm, it sounds...good. But..., I'm not sure. I really don't know .... you know Paul, right? Just because he says it's good doesn't really mean anything.

P: Fine. So what-is-your-decision-then?

J: Well..., I'm not sure. I really don't know.

P: Aaaaaahhh, Damn it! Why can't you girls be a little more decisive?

【拓展①】indecisive adj.

indecisive adj. 纠结的；犹豫不决的

1. (of a person 人) unable to make decisions

【拓展②】sit on the fence: to avoid to make decisions or choice

e.g.:

B: You coming to the movie with us, or do you want to go the club?

M: I really like the movie. You know, I love Leo a looooooot! But, the club sounds pretty cool, too.

B: So, what is your decision.

M: I wish I could do both. I really don’t know.

B: Come on. You can’t sit on the the fence all night. You have to make a decision.

TIP 4: BE CONFIDENT AND HAPPY

Be a confident and happy girl. 自信快乐的女子。

e.g. In romance, there's nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is.

【拓展①】dignity n.

1. a calm and serious manner that deserves respect

庄重；庄严；尊严:

e.g. She accepted the criticism with quiet dignity.

她大度地接受了批评。

2. a sense of your own importance and value, and other people's respect for you.

自豪；自尊；自重:

e.g. It's difficult to preserve your dignity when you have no job and no home.

一个无家无业的人难以保持自己的尊严。

【注意】而且这个dignity并不是那种觉得老子天下第一，谁都高攀不起的那种arrogance。

【拓展②】arrogance n. 傲慢；自大

TIP 5: DON'T GET JEALOUS EASILY

Don't get jealous easily. 不要总是瞎吃醋。

【重点单词】jealous adj.

【常用结构】be jealous OF sth. 介词注意，用OF

e.g. Jessica is jealous of Emily because her boyfriend Paul bought her a stylish pair of shoes yesterday.

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