(单词翻译:单击)
Hello psych2goers, we just want to take the time to thank you for all your kind support.
Psych2go的观众，大家好。我们想先感谢大家的支持。
We are a team of dedicated, passionate and hard-working individuals who come together every day with one goal in mind:
我们的团队里都是勤劳、刻苦且充满激情的小伙伴，大家聚在一起只为一个目标：
we want to make psychology come alive for you.
为大家带来更加鲜活的心理学知识。
We are self-funded and recently launched our patreon. If you enjoy the work we do and find it meaningful,
我们是自费团队，最近我们开设了自己的patreon账号。如果你喜欢我们的视频，
please stick around until the end of the video for information on how to get more involved with us and all the cool rewards you can get from us.
请坚持看完本期视频，查看更多如何参与我们的信息。
Asking someone out can be downright scary, your heart may be racing right now just thinking about your crush.
约某人出去真的会很恐怖，一想到喜欢的人，一颗小心脏狂跳。
You keep telling yourself that today will be the day you do it, whether it's when you both have physics class together,
一整天你都在不断地告诉自己，今天一定要约他啦，不管是一起上体育课的时候、
through a text message during your lunch break or a phone call right before you head to bed.
午餐的时候发个短信还是睡前给对方打个电话。
One common misconception about our dating culture is that the awkwardness and sweaty palms only happen in our teenage years.
关于约会文化，有一个普遍的误解—尴尬和手掌出汗只会发生在我们的青少年时期。
But many adults can find it just as nerve-wracking and struggle with it.
但是很多成年人会发现要约对方出去的时候也是一样紧张。
We understand how intimidating it is to put yourself out there and want to help you practice being open and unvulnerable.
我们知道杵在那里会有多吓人，我们希望能够帮助你。
Here are five ways to ask someone out:
以下是约别人出去的五种方法：
1. Find a common ground. Before asking someone out it's important to find out whether you two have something in common.
1.找到你们之间的一个共同点。在约别人出去之前，一定要找找你们之间有没有相同点。
Instead of making generic small talk, you can delve into topics that help you get to know each other better.
不要只是随便聊聊，你可以挖掘一些话题帮助你们更好的了解彼此。
For instance, you can talk about recent movies or books that made an impact on your life, if you know that they have also seen or read them.
例如，你们可以谈论近期对你生活有影响的电影或书籍，前提是你知道对方也看过或读过这部电影这本书。
You can also ask them about what their passions, interests, hobbies and dreams are.
你可以问问对方的兴趣、爱好和梦想是什么。
Once you find something that the two of you share, you can converse with them on a deeper level
一旦你发现了你们之间的共同点，你就可以和他们进行更深层次的讨论
rather than having dead-end conversations that prevent the both of you from growing closer.
而不是把天聊死了，这样只会阻碍你们彼此相互了解。
2. Pick a safe activity.
2. 选择一个安全的活动。
Pick an activity that allows the both of you to bond and have a good time.
选择一个能够让你们贴近彼此，愉快相处的活动。
Going out for coffee or drinks or walk in the park or a museum are safe options that aren't too overwhelming.
去喝咖啡、喝酒、去公园散步或是去博物馆都是安全选择。
Make sure that the location you pick isn't too crowded or noisy that prevents you from hearing each other speak.
确保你选择的这些地方不会太拥挤、太吵闹，这样会让你们听不到彼此说什么。
This is especially important for introverts.
这一点对于内向者而言尤为重要。
As your crush in introvert, check out our video 5 Dating Tips for Introverts for more helpful information.
如果你是内向者，那么请观看我们的视频《五个给内向者的约会建议》以获取更多有用信息。
It's commonly advised not to go to the movie theater as a first date because it doesn't give you a chance to interact as much.
第一次约会的时候通常都建议大家，不要去电影院，因为电影院无法提供一个相互交流的机会。
But if the two of you decide to have ice cream and talk about the film later, it can act as an icebreaker and give you something to talk about.
但是如果你们俩决定看完电影后去吃冰淇淋，然后谈论这部电影，那么电影院就成为了一个破冰者给了你们谈论的话题。
3. It's cliche and overused but be yourself.
3. 这一点说过很多很多次，但是做你自己。
You hear this line all the time but there's a reason why it's true.
你总会听到这句话，但是让你们这么做是有原因的。
When you're in a relationship with someone, it's not about constantly telling each other how great you are
恋爱并不是一直向对方述说自己有多么好
that leaves you no room to be yourself on your bad days. The same applies to asking someone out.
这样只会让你无法做自己。这一点同样适用于约会。
Avoid sounding like a salesperson, instead be authentic and honest.
不要让自己听起来像个销售人员，要真诚。
Let the other person know that you think they're interesting and that you're willing to learn more about them.
让对方知道你认为他们很有趣，你愿意更多的去了解他们。
Remember not to be pushy or forceful, after all you can't make someone return the same feelings.
记住不要一意孤行出风头，毕竟你无法让别人也回以相同的感受。
Respecting each other's space and boundaries is important.
尊重彼此的空间和界限很重要。
4. Figure out where you want to ask them.
4. 想想通过什么方式约对方。
In this day and age, we can text email or call our crushes when we want to ask them out.
如今，我们可以通过邮件和电话联系想约的人。
Asking someone out in person is also an option but it may be used less often nowadays because of how intimidating it can be.
当面约也是一种选择，但是现如今可能很少有人当面约，因为这样很吓人啊。
Depending on how long you have known the person and
如何约对方取决于你们认识多久、
whether or not the two of you have exchanged phone numbers, added each other on social media or have mutual friends
你们是是否交换过电话号码、你们是否是彼此的微博好友或是有共同的朋友
figure out which method works best for you. Keep in mind that each platform has its own pros and cons.
看看哪一种最适合你。记住每种方式都有其优缺点。
For instance, asking someone out in person doesn't give you a chance to retype a message
例如，当面约别人的话，你就没机会重新编辑的信息
but it does allow you to see their reaction and their answer will be immediate rather than waiting to hear back from a text.
但是这种方式能够让你看到他们的反应，他们会立即给你回复，而不需等着他们的短信。
5. Be brave, take the leap. Don't wait too long to make your move, seize the day.
5. 要勇敢去尝试。不要犹豫太久，抓住机会。
It's scary putting your heart on the line but you never know what may happen if you don't try.
把心悬起来很恐怖，但是如果不尝试，你永远不知道结果。
Constantly letting your fears and thoughts well up inside of you will only allow your walls to grow higher.
不断流露出的恐怖想法只会让你的心墙越筑越高。
It's better to take a chance than look back with regrets and what-ifs.
尝试总好过后悔。
There will be times to be rejected but remember that this only brings you closer to the person you're meant to be with.
有时候会被拒绝，但是记住这是唯一让你们更进一步的方法。
We wish you the best of luck. Do you have trouble working up the courage to ask someone out?
祝大家好运。你是否缺乏约他（她）出去的勇气呢？
Please share your thoughts with us below. Also, don't forget to subscribe for more content from Psych2go and check out our patreon.
请在下方和我们分享你的想法。还有不要忘记订阅我们的频道观看更多内容。
We started it because we want to go into a bigger platform that reaches more people who were in need of help.
我们开设patreon账号是因为我们想成为一个更大的平台为更多需要的人提供帮助。
With your contribution, you can receive our psi pendant, t-shirt issues of our magazine and many more membership benefits.
有了大家的参与，大家可以收获我们的吊坠、T恤、杂志和更多会员福利。
Your funding will help us produce quality script writing, voicers and animation that makes our content both entertaining and educational.
大家的资助将帮助我们制作更高质量的文本、旁白和动画，让我们的内容既有趣又有教育意义。
We want to make sure our community members get the best and only the best. Thanks for watching!
我们想为社区成员提供最好的。感谢收看！
