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And again, don't get me wrong, I'm very grateful to my mom. I literally had 24/7 Marva Collins in my house.
再一次，别误解我，我非常感激我妈妈。简直就像是全天候的驻家玛瓦·柯林斯
I owe so much to my mom. However, in this case, it probably was not the realistic belief.
我是那么地感激我妈妈，但是，这一次，这可能不是现实的信念
So what is realistic? How do we identify what is realistic and what is not?
那么什么是现实的？我们如何区分什么是现实的，什么不是？
Here are some ideas to help us do so.
下面是一些对我们有帮助的想法
The Stockdale paradox.
斯托克代尔悖论
It's about finding the tension, reconciling the tension and it's not easy.
它认为要找出矛盾，让矛盾化解，这并不容易
Again, I'm not going to give you a formula now to tell you:
我不会给你们一个公式，告诉你们:

OK, here is... calculate this, and if it's above seven, go ahead with green; below seven, probably not so.
好吧，就这样……算这个，如果是大于7的就没有问题，低于7的，可能就不是这样
There is no formula. But here is, just a heuristic, something to think about when you think about beliefs.
不存在什么公式，但是，仅作为一个启发式，当你思考信念时，存在一些需要思考的东西
James Stockdale was admiral. James Stockdale was the highest ranking prisoner of war in the... in the Vietnam War.
詹姆斯·斯托克代尔是名海军上将，他是越南战争被俘人员里级别最高的战俘
And he started to notice a phenomenon. He was there for years.
他开始注意到一个现象，他在那关了很多年
Eventually got out and live to tell the tale many others did not.
最终被释放并得以活着向人们讲述往事，而其他许多战俘没能做到
And he saw many people survive, many people not survive.
他看到许多人幸存，许多人死亡
The very harsh conditions of the prisoner. and what he was that the people who survived had two characteristics.
战俘的生存条件非常恶劣，他发现那些活下来的人有两个特点

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