A successful marriage lies in two points: finding the right person and being the right person. Marriage is much more than the mere coming together of two individuals. How can we survive years of sameness(相同) and irritation(令人恼火的事) at the other's habits to sustain love in a happy family?

美满的婚姻取决于两点:找一个好人，做一个好人。婚姻不仅仅是两个人的结合那么简单。怎样才能摆脱日复一日的枯燥生活和对方令人难以忍受的恶习，维持一个爱意浓浓的幸福家庭呢?

The central secret seems to be in choosing well. Good people can create bad relationships, even though they both dearly want the relationship to succeed. It is important to find someone with whom you can create a good relationship from the outset.

秘密就在于选对人。两个好人并不一定会成为一对好夫妻，不管他们主观愿望有多强烈。从一开始就要选对那个能够与你和谐相处的人，这才是最重要的。

However, we can't change basic personality, but we can improve behavior. We will turn out more compatible with our mates through learning to adapt to each other. As the 1980s generation, compatibility is not a state in which we begin a marriage, but rather a goal to be achieved.

但是，我们虽不能选择自己的性格，但却可以改善我们的行为。在学习努力适应对方的过程中，我们也会变得更加宽容。作为80后，包容并不是我们始入婚姻的状态，而是我们要努力达成的目标。