Read a passage about Emotional Intelligence from a Psychology textbook.
请阅读下面摘自心理学课本的关于情商的文章。
You will have 45 seconds to read the passage. Begin reading now.
你有45秒的时间阅读。现在请开始阅读。
Now, listen to part of a lecture in a Psychology class.
现在请听心理学课上的部分内容。

So, here's an example: my daughter had a friend over to our house recently and they decided to watch a movie together,
我这有一个案例：最近我女儿的一个朋友来我们家玩儿，她们决定一起看一部电影，
only they got into an argument because they couldn't agree on what movie to watch.
但是在选电影的时候她们起了争执。
My daughter started to get quite upset during the argument, which wasn't like her at all.
我的女儿争执期间开始变得非常烦躁，这一点也不像她的风格。
But then, my daughter stopped, and thought about why she was so upset.
不过接着她就停了下来，想了想她之所以变得如此烦躁的原因。
She realized her reaction was inappropriate,
她意识到她的举止是不恰当的，
and she also realized she wasn't really upset with her friend...there was something else bothering her.
还发现她并不是真的生她朋友的气，而是被其他事情困扰着。
See, she'd just gotten this summer job as a camp counselor for children,
是这样的，她刚接下了一份暑期工作——在夏令营给孩子们当辅导员。
and she was feeling a lot of worry and stress about how well she would do, she said she'd never worked with children before,
她对自己的表现有些担忧和紧张，因为她之前从没和孩子们一起工作过。
so she figured out that she wasn't upset about what movie to watch with her friend, but about starting her new job.
就这样，她发现她烦恼的并不是要和朋友一起看哪部电影，而是她即将开始的新工作。
She really wanted it to go well. She wanted the kids to like her.
她非常希望工作能够顺利，孩子们都能喜欢她。
And when she understood this, she stopped arguing with her friend, and apologized to her.
于是当她意识到这一点之后，她马上停止了和朋友争吵，并向朋友道歉。
She told her friend how anxious she felt about starting the job,
她告诉她的朋友她对开始工作感到多么不安，
and how sorry she was about getting upset with her, and her friend encouraged her, saying she'd do great at the job!
以及她非常抱歉对朋友发火。她的朋友反而鼓励她说她一定会表现得很好的。
So my daughter felt better, and they relaxed and had fun together, same as always.
于是我的女儿感觉好多了，然后她们放松了一下又一起玩闹了起来，就像什么都没发生过一样。