(单词翻译:单击)
Hi there, Psych2go fans. For those of you who are new, or someone who's been a loyal fan,
各位观众，大家好。各位新老观众，
we're glad to see you here I wanna thank you for supporting us.
我们很高兴看到大家一直在支持我们。
Your on-going help, sharing and liking, has helped Psych2go to continue our mission to make psychology accessible to everyone
大家一直以来的帮助、分享和点赞，帮助了我们继续使命——让人人都能接触到心理学。
Want more information about the topic of this video? No problem. There are references at the end.
想了解更多关于这个视频主题的信息吗？没有问题。最后有参考。
Are you lucky enough to have a best friend? Or at least have known a deep trusting friendship?
你有最好的朋友吗？或者至少拥有过一段深厚的信任友谊？
Finding a true and loving friendship, the one that makes you feel happy, safe and secure,
寻找一位真正的充满爱的友谊，一个让你感到快乐、安全、有保障的友谊，
is so rare and special that when we do, we can't help but wish that it would last forever.
是稀少又特别，当我们获得这样的友谊，我们不禁希望它能永远持续下去。
Having friends like this can be the greatest pleasures in life. So it can be devastating for us to lose them.
拥有这样的朋友，是生命中最快乐的事情。所以失去他们对我们来说是毁灭性的打击。
Saying goodbye to a best friend is heart breaking.
对好友道出永别是一件令人心碎的事情。
But trying to savage a friendship that's not meant to last, does more harm than good.
但是试图破坏一段并不长久的友谊，弊大于利。
Loving someone means doing what's best for them, even when it hurts you.
爱一个人意味着做对他最好的事，即使这会伤害到你。
With that said, here are 6 Signs That Can Help You Realise When It's Time To Let Go Of Your Best Friend.
话虽如此，以下是帮助你意识到什么时候该放弃最好朋友的6个迹象。
1) You are second guessing your friendship.
1. 你在怀疑你的友谊。
Though you don't want to admit it, you are second guessing the relationship,
虽然你不想承认，但你确实怀疑这段友谊了。
questioning what the point of the friendship is.
质疑这段友谊的意义。
You've both changed so much that it's almost as if you're completely different people now.
你们俩人都变了很多，就好像变成了完全不一样的人。
You no longer have anything in common and don't know what to talk about.
你们不再拥有共同点，也不知道该说些什么。
Conversations that were once easy going and fun, now feel constantly awkward and forced.
曾经轻松有趣的对话，现在却是勉强又尴尬。
Everything you used to love doing with them, you've seemed to stop enjoying altogether.
以前喜欢和他们一块做的事，现在不喜欢和他们一起做了。
No matter how much you want to hold onto the past and the way things used to be between you two,
无论你多么想要抓住过去和你俩之间过去的事情，
you know in your heart that everything's just too different now.
你心里知道现在一切都太不一样了。
2) You don't communicate anymore.
2. 你们不再沟通。
Another common reason why friendship end, is because people tend to grow apart over time.
友谊走到尽头的另一个常见原因是因为，随着时间的推移，人们往往会变得疏远。
You and your best friend have both gone on your separate ways
你和你最好的朋友都分道扬镳了
but you're still holding on and pretending like you have it.
但你还在坚持，假装你拥有它。
You still think of them as your best friend even if you haven't kept in touch, or talked to them in ages.
你仍然觉得你们是最好的朋友，即便你们很久没有联系了。
You barely see each other anymore, and neither of you make any effort to get together.
你们都不怎么见面了，你俩也没想要见面。
You might want to pretend as if this is normal, especially if you're either busy or live far apart from one another.
你可能想要假装一切正常，尤其是当你很忙或者你们住得很远的时候。
At some point though, it will all start sounding like empty excuses to you.
但在某些时候，你会觉得这些都是空洞的借口。
3) You want different things.
3. 你想要不同的东西。
We all have plans and goals that we want to achieve in our lives.
我们都有自己想要实现的计划和目标。
And sometimes pursuing them can mean to let certain people go.
有时追求它们意味着让某些人离开。
It's hard when you and your best friend want different, every different things for yourselves
当你和你最好的朋友想要不同的时候，每一件不同的事情都是为了你自己的时候，
and staying in the friendship means sacrificing one or another's hopes and dreams.
当维持友谊意味着牺牲一个或另一个人的希望和梦想的时候，这是很难的。
Asking someone to give that up for you, will only make them resent you for it in the end.
让别人为你放弃，到头来只会让他们怨恨你。
4) You've found other friends.
4. 你找到了其他的朋友。
You may not realise that you and your best friend are already drifting apart, until you make new close friends.
你可能没有意识到你和你最好的朋友已经渐行渐远，直到你结交了新的亲密朋友。
When being with people, other than your BESTIE feels more compatible and comfortable,
和其他人而非最好朋友在一起，感觉更和谐、更舒服，
that's already a clear sign that it's time to let go.
这已经是一个明确的信号——是时候放手了。
Or at least accept that the friendship isn't what it was and the status of 'BEST FRIEND' drop.
或者至少接受这段友谊已经今非昔比，“最好的朋友”的地位已经下降的事实。
This doesn't mean the new friends will treat you better or that you like them more than your best friend.
这并不意味着新朋友会对你更好，或者你更喜欢他们而不是你最好的朋友。
It simply means that you belong more with them than you do with your old friend and that you owe it to yourself,
这仅仅意味着你和他们在一起比和你的老朋友在一起更有归属感，而且你应该对自己，
and to them to be honest about it.
对他们坦诚相待。
5) They've broken your trust.
5. 他们辜负了你的信任。
This is a particularly a sad reason for ending a friendship
对结束一段友谊而言，这是一个特别悲伤的原因。
Unfortunately, it does happen. Trust is, after all, the foundation of any healthy relationship.
不幸的是，它确实发生了。毕竟，信任是任何健康关系的基础。
Without it, things can never move forward or get better between you and your best friend.
没有它，你和你最好的朋友之间的关系就永远无法向前发展或变得更好。
Maybe you've just had one fight or too many or you've said some things to each other that can't be taken back.
也许你们只是吵了一架，或者吵得太多次了，或者你们对彼此说了一些无法收回的话。
Either way, there's been too much hurt to save the friendship.
不管怎样，这段友谊已经受到了太多伤害。
Collins & Van Dulmen 2006 study states that although repeated forgiveness and moving on is an option,
Collins 和Van Dulmen2006年研究发现，尽管不断的原谅和继续前进是一种选择，
the best thing you can do at that point, is to start over and find peace with someone else.
但此时你能做的最好的事情，就是重新开始，与他人和平相处。
And 6) You are the only one holding on.
6. 你是唯一坚持的人。
Finally if you feel that the effort to keep the friendship alive is virtually one sided with you being the load bearer
最后，如果你觉得只有你一个人在坚持这段友谊，
then it might be time to end things with this person.
那么也许是时候结束和这个人的关系了。
As much as it hurts to be rejected, especially by someone you've considered to be your closest and dearest friend.
被拒绝是很痛苦的，尤其是被你认为是你最亲密的朋友拒绝。
Trying to force them to change their mind is still wrong.
试图迫使他们改变主意仍然是错误的。
If they don't want you in their life anymore spare yourself the endignity and leave.
如果他们不想让你再出现在他们的生活中，那就给自己留点面子，离开吧。
Asking for answers to get closure is an option. Anymore than that though is not recommended.
询问答案是一种选择。但不建议超过这个范围。
Generally speaking, it's not good for your self-esteem and mental health to stay with someone who clearly doesn't want you.
一般来说，和一个明显不想要你的人在一起对你的自尊和心理健康都没有好处。
No matter how you look at it, letting go of someone you love is one of the most difficult
不管你怎么看，放弃你爱的人是你一生中最困难、
and painful decisions you're ever going to make in life.
最痛苦的决定之一。
You may experience a cycle of grieving with stages of anger, denial and sadness before accepting it.
在接受之前，你可能会经历一个由愤怒、拒绝和悲伤组成的悲伤循环。
Through it all though, you'll understand that deep down inside that it is the right thing to do.
通过这一切，你会明白，在内心深处，这是正确的事情。
Some things are just meant to come apart and that's okay. People are meant to change and mature.
有些人和事是注定要分开的，没关系。人们注定要改变和成熟。
Moving forward in life means learning and growing from your past not being held back by it. Can you relate to this video?
生活中的前进意味着从过去中学习和成长，而不是被过去所阻碍。你对本期视频有共鸣么？
Have you experienced any of the points indicated or notice it happening around you?
你是否经历过以上这些，或者注意到它正在你身边发生？
How have you reacted? Please comment, subscribe and like below.
你对此有何反应？请在下方留言、订阅并点赞。
Don't forget to share this video with someone who might relate to it as well.
别忘了把这段视频分享给可能也有同感的人。
We'd also love to hear what you would be interested in us covering next.
我们也很想知道大家希望我们接下来做什么主题的视频。
Thanks for watching and thank you for being YOU.
感谢收看，感谢大家保持初心。
