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Sometimes the worst critics aren't others but ourselves. What do you do when there's poison inside of you?
有时候，最糟糕的批评者不是别人，而是我们自己。当心内怀毒时，你会怎么做？
You remove it. But it's not so easy as pushing an eject button and having it pop out.
你会除掉它。但这并没有按下退出键并将它除掉那么简单。
A thought isn't so easily discarded but with enough practice they can be questioned
思想不容易被摒弃，但通过充分的练习，可以对它产生质疑
and better managed each time we aren't so kind to ourselves. Here are six signs you may be too hard on yourself.
并在我们对自己不友好的时候更好地管理它们。以下是你对自己太过严苛的6种迹象。
Before we begin, we and Psych2go want to give you a huge thank you.
在开始前，我们想感谢大家。
With your help we are able to make quality psychology content more accessible to everyone. Now onto the video.
有了大家的帮助，我们才能制作人人都可观看的心理学内容。现在进入正题。
1. You blame yourself for things out of your control.
1. 你会为自己无法控制的事情责怪自己。
It's good to take responsibility for the mistakes you make
为自己的过错负责是好事，
but when you're too hard on yourself it's easy to forget that you're human too.
但当你对自己过于严苛，就会容易让你忘记自己也不过是普通人。
When something doesn't go the way you planned or expect it to
当事情没按计划或预期发展
you begin to beat yourself up over it, even though you tried your best.
你就开始因此责怪自己，即使你已经尽了最大的努力。
Instead of blaming yourself, accept what you cannot change and focus on the things you can to make the situation better.
不要责备自己，而是要接受自己不能改变的事实，把注意力放在你能做的事情上，让情况变得更好。
2. You focus on the things you haven't accomplished yet.
2. 你专注于那些还没有完成的事情。
It's great to be ambitious and actively work towards reaching your goals
有雄心壮志并积极朝目标努力是好事，
but if you begin to compare your own success to someone else's,
但如果你开始将自己的成功和他人的作比较，
then you may start to forget the progress you've made.
那么你可能会开始忘记自己所取得的进步。
Rather than feeling like you're not achieving enough, learn to appreciate your own journey.
与其觉得自己没有取得足够的成就，不如学会欣赏自己的旅程。
Everyone grows at a different pace and just because you're not where you'd like to be yet
每个人成长的脚步都不同，仅仅因为你还没到达你想去的地方
doesn't mean you'll never get there, remember there's no such thing as overnight success.
并不意味着你永远也到不了那里，记住没有一夜成名这回事儿。
3. It's hard for you to accept other people's compliments.
3. 你很难接受其他人的赞美。
When you're hard on yourself, you fall into the cycle of negative self-talk.
当你对自己严苛的时候，你就掉进了消极的自言自语循环。
As a result, even when someone gives you a genuine compliment you perceive it as a lie
因此，即便当有人真心称赞你时，你会觉得对方在撒谎
not because they didn't mean it but because your self-criticism alters how you see yourself.
不是因为他们不真心，而是因为你的自我批评改变了你对自己的看法。
Give yourself a steam of boost by surrounding yourself with close loved ones who see the best in you.
和那些能看到你最好一面的人在一起，给自己一股动力。
When you spend time with people who remind you to practice self-love,
当你花时间和那些提醒你要爱自己的人在一起时，
you learn how to be more accepting of your quirks and flaws.
你会学到如何更加接受自己的缺点和不足。
4. Your dismissive of your own ideas.
4. 你轻视自己的想法。
We may not all be mad scientists or gifted artists but we're all capable of being creative.
我们可能不是疯狂的科学家或是有天赋的艺术家，但我们都富有创造力。
But if you're quick to shoot down your own ideas before sharing them with others then you may be too hard on yourself.
但如果你在与他人分享之前就急于否定自己的想法，那么你可能对自己太苛刻了。
Rather than quickly attaching judgment to an idea allow it to bloom into action first before letting it go.
与其快速地对一个想法做出判断，不如在放弃前，先赋予行动。
Often we're afraid of implementing ideas because of failure but ideas are stepping stones to progress not perfection.
我们通常都因为害怕失败而不实施自己的想法，但想法是进步的垫脚石，而不是通向完美的垫脚石。
Before we move on, we want to give a shout out to our friend Cindy who
讲下一条前，我们想介绍一下我们的朋友辛迪，
recently launched her shop website called Little Star Plans.
她最近开设了自己的网店—Little Star Plans。
If you're into bullet journals or planners she has all the stickers you need to get started and get motivated in planning.
如果你喜欢子弹笔记或手账，她有你需要的所有贴纸，让你开始并在计划中获得动力。
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每消费一次就可免费获得Psych2go商标贴纸，只需在结账时提到Psych2go即可。
But hurry as this is valid until October 1st 2019. Now back to the video.
但要快哟，有效期只到2019年10月1日。回到我们的视频中。
5. You dwell on the mistakes you've made.
5. 你总是纠结于你所犯的错误。
When you focus too much on what you did wrong,
当你过多专注于自己犯下的错误，
you get stuck in the past which prevents you from moving forward.
你就会深陷过去，无法前进。
Instead of beating yourself over mistakes, you've made reflect on them so you can use them as learning moments.
与其为了犯下的错误自责，还不如反思，把它们当成学习的机会。
It's impossible to go through life without failing, getting hurt and hurting others even if it's unintentional.
一生中，不可能不跌倒、受伤或伤害别人，哪怕是无意的。
It's good to care about how your actions affect others
关心自己的行为如何影响他人是件好事
but it's another thing entirely when you will allow your guilt to consume you.
但当你让内疚吞噬你的时候，那就是另外一回事了。
6. You rarely give yourself a break.
6. 你很少让自己休息一下。
Putting pressure on yourself isn't productive, it will only makes you feel worse.
给自己施加压力是没有效率的，只会让你感觉更糟。
When you feel worse you also begin to perform worse.
当你感觉更糟糕时，你的表现也会更糟糕。
Sometimes it's good to take a step back focus on the big picture and remember to have fun every once in a while.
有时候，退一步关注大局是很好的，记得时不时地找点乐子。
If you only work your life away, constantly chasing your dreams, you lose out on spending time with loved ones
如果你一辈子都在工作，不停地追逐梦想，你就失去了与所爱之人共度时光的机会，
and making memories you can look back on when you grow older.
也就失去了在年老时可以追忆的回忆。
So slow down, catch the sunset and let go.
所以放慢脚步，追逐日落然后放手。
Do you think you've been too hard on yourself? What would you like to do differently? Let us know in the comments below.
你觉得自己对自己严苛吗？你会有什么不同的做法？请在下方评论告知。
Also if you liked this video, be sure to subscribe for more psychology content and as always thanks for watching.
还有，如果你喜欢本期视频，一定要订阅我们的频道获取更多内容，感谢收看。
