This has implications for child rearing.
This has implications, of course, for education. It has implications for society as a whole.
This is a topic I am going to talk about a lot. I am going to dedicate much time when we discuss relationships.
But just very briefly, this understanding for me transformed, literally transformed my relationship with my wife.
It transformed... It is transforming my relationship with my friends, as well as students and colleagues.
You see, we go into a relationship. Most people think that important thing about relationship is that we are validated, as we get pads on our back.
Now that's important in our relationship. Surely important to be validated in any relationship,
whether it's with you know students/teacher, whether it's with friends, certainly in romantic relationship.
However, what David Schnarch talks about is that primarily if we want long-term, successful, thriving, passionate relationships,
the first objective, the primary objective is to go into relationship to be known.
To be known, rather than to be validated, meaning going in there and saying "OK so how can my partner get to know me even better?"
Doing it gradually of course. On the first date, you don't want to reveal all your secrets.
Doing it gradually. You know, thinking about it, but opening up more and more.
And couples who over time open up more and more are able to sustain the relationship as well as their passion, over time.
And again, I am going to talk about much more... I am going to devote two classes at least to relationships.
This is going to be one of the central pillars of successful long-term relationships. Also with the students, the same applies.