Why? Because something cannot be changed, or almost impossible to change gradually. For example, addiction.
If I'm addicted to drugs, it's very difficult to say, well I'll just have a little bit less,
you know I'll inject a little bit less today. A little bit less tomorrow.
It usually has to be abrupt. And then we are in the boiling realm. Then we are in the panic zone.
Quite literally at times, which is why we need help.
In this area, we need someone to hold us. Someone to comfort us. Someone to protect us.
Because it is such a volatile zone. And potentially dangerous.
But generally, if you want to change, the healthy approach to change would be along the stretch zone.
It's impossible to change in theory. Now I have said it so many times and yet very often people who take the class,
as you know, many of them do change. Many of them do say, well my life is better today for having taken it.
And other people say, well I took the class and it didn't make a difference in my life It was a fun experience at times, the pink shirt and others.
But it didn't make a real lasting difference in my life.
In every... almost all, not in all cases, but in almost all cases, it's because it wasn't
behavioral change associated with the attitudinal change or with the insides or understandings or recognition.
There has to be a bias for action.
And that bias for action, just name a few examples: to increase confidence, we do it by taking risks,
not by talking and thinking about, or standing in front of the mirror and say to myself:
I have a lot of confidence. I have self-esteem. I'm great. I'm terrific. I'm gorgeous. Not enough.