Dave had founded a company, Launch Media, in L.A. and sold it to Yahoo years earlier.
那一年，戴夫在洛杉矶创立了开启传媒公司，这家公司十几年前被雅虎收购。
Yahoo's headquarters were in Northern California, where I lived and worked, but Dave's team remained in Los Angeles, where he lived and worked.
雅虎总部就在我生活和工作的北加州，而戴夫的团队在洛杉矶。
When we started dating, we decided to base our life together in the Bay Area,
刚开始约会时，我们决定将共同生活的地点定在旧金山湾区，
so Dave began commuting, typically spending Monday through Thursday in Southern California and then flying north to spend weekends with me.
于是戴夫开始了来回往返的生活：周一到周四他在南加州，周末坐飞机到北部和我相聚。
This pattern continued even after we were married.
甚至在结婚后，我们仍延续着这种生活方式。
After the birth of our son, Dave began flying back and forth several times a week.
儿子出生后，戴夫一周往返的次数增加了。
It was great that we had the ability for him to commute, but it was far from ideal.
他能这样做实在帮了大忙，但离理想状态还很远。
Even though he was making an exhausting effort to be with me and our baby, he was still gone a lot.
为了与我和孩子在一起他都累垮了，但他仍不能总陪在我们身边，
Since I was with the baby fulltime, the great majority of child care fell to me.
因此我承担了绝大多数照顾孩子的工作。
The division of labor felt uneven and strained our marriage.
这种劳动分工似乎是不公平的，我们的婚姻也为此承受了很大压力。
We hired a nanny, but she couldn't solve all our problems;
之后，我们雇用了一位保姆，但这不能解决所有问题，
the emotional support and shared experience that a spouse provides cannot be bought.
情感上的支持和生活点滴的分享是无法用金钱换来的。
After a few short months of parenthood, we had already fallen into traditional, lopsided gender roles.
为人父母仅几个月后，我们就已经掉入了传统的、不平衡的性别角色之中。
We were not unique. In the last thirty years, women have made more progress in the workforce than in the home.
我们这种情况并不特殊。在过去30年里，女性在职场上的进步远大于家庭。
According to the most recent analysis, when a husband and wife both are employed fulltime,
根据最近的一项分析，在美国，当丈夫和妻子都有全职工作时，
the mother does 40 percent more child care and about 30 percent more housework than the father.
母亲对孩子的照顾、所做的家务分别比父亲多出40%和30%。