Chapter 5 Are You My Mentor?
第5章 如何找到你的人生导师
When I was a child, one of my favorite books was Are You My Mother?,
小时候我最喜欢的一本书是《你是我的妈妈吗？》，
the story of a baby bird that emerges from its shell to discover an empty nest.
讲的是一只雏鸟破壳而出，却发现自己独守空巢，
The hatchling heads off in search of its missing mother, asking a kitten, a hen, a dog, and a cow the burning question: "Are you my mother?"
于是它出发去寻找妈妈的故事。一路上，小鸟急切地向小猫、小鸡、小狗，还有一头奶牛问同一个问题：“你是我的妈妈吗？”
Each animal responds, "No."
它们都回答说“不是”。
The hatchling grows more desperate, eventually shouting, "Are you my mother?" at a car, a boat, a plane, and even a steam shovel, which can only respond with a loud "Snort!"
小鸟越来越绝望，最后竟朝着汽车、轮船、飞机，甚至是挖掘机大叫：“你是我的妈妈吗？”挖掘机的回应只是响亮的喷气声。
Stuck in the shovel's jaws, the hatchling appears doomed until, miraculously, the shovel lifts the bird back to its nest.
被卡在挖掘机铲斗里的小鸟似乎在劫难逃，但铲斗居然奇迹般地将它送回了鸟巢。
The mother returns and the hatchling announces, "You are a bird, and you are my mother."
终于，鸟妈妈回来了，小鸟说：“啊，你才是我的妈妈！”
This children's book poignantly mirrors the professional question "Are you my mentor?"
这本书切中了一个职业问题：“你是我的人生导师吗？”
If someone has to ask the question, the answer is probably no.
如果有人一定要问，得到的答案很可能是“不是”。
When someone finds the right mentor, it is obvious. The question becomes a statement.
当一个人想找到合适的导师时，一切看上去都理所当然，而且问题本身也变成了一种声明。
Chasing or forcing that connection rarely works, and yet I see women attempt this all the time.
可是，追求或勉强建立这样的关系却几乎没什么效果，但是在现实生活中，很多女性经常这样做。