It is also true, as any good negotiator knows, that having a better understanding of the other side leads to a superior outcome.
So at the very least, women can enter these negotiations with the knowledge that showing concern for the common good,
even as they negotiate for themselves, will strengthen their position.
In addition, there are huge benefits to communal effort in and of itself.
By definition, all organizations consist of people working together.
Focusing on the team leads to better results for the simple reason that well-functioning groups are stronger than individuals.
Teams that work together well outperform those that don't.
And success feels better when it's shared with others.
So perhaps one positive result of having more women at the top is that our leaders will have been trained to care more about the well-being of others.
My hope, of course, is that we won't have to play by these archaic rules forever and that eventually we can all just be ourselves.
We still have a long way to go.
In November 2011, San Francisco magazine ran a story on female entrepreneurs in Silicon Valley
and illustrated it by superimposing the featured women's heads onto male bodies.
The only body type they could imagine for successful entrepreneurship was wearing a tie or a hoodie.