(单词翻译:单击)
Dating may seem impossible at times, especially if you're not used to putting yourself out there.
有时约会似乎是一件不可能的事，尤其是在你不习惯于投入这种环境的情况下。
It's scary when you have to worry about putting your heart on the line, not only that but it's a lot of hard work and time investment.
不得不担心要将自己的心放置于危险境地是一件可怕的事，不仅是这样，约会还需要大量工作和时间的投资。
You've discovered that even though you're actively dating, you're still on the search for a meaningful connection with someone.
你会发现即使你积极的约会，你仍然还在寻找和对方之间有意义的连接。
Here are five ways to find true love if you're an introvert and hate dating.
如果你是一名内向者并且讨厌约会，那么以下是寻找真爱的五种方法。
1. Go to events and places that reflect your favorite hobbies and interests.
1. 去那些能够反映出你爱好和兴趣的场所。
Forget hitting the bar or club to meet people if that's not where you feel like you can be your natural self.
不要去酒吧或俱乐部见朋友，如果这些地方不能让你感受到真实自我的话。
Meeting new people that you can potentially get to know over time requires a certain sense of self confidence
和那些你想了解的新朋友见面需要某种自信感。
By going to events and places that harbor your hobbies and interests, it'll be easier for you to strike up conversations based on similarities,
去那些你喜欢和感兴趣的场所，你就能够更加容易的基于这些相似点展开对话
alleviating some of the stress introverts face when it comes to small talk
以此消除内向者进行小交谈时会面对的压力。
2. Be prepared to go through trial-and-error.
2. 做好经历反复试验的准备。
Love isn't a fairy tale and while you may hate the superficial aspects of dating,
爱情并不是童话，如果你讨厌约会的表面景象，
you certainly can't go through it without getting your heart broken a few times or breaking someone else's.
没经历过几次心碎和让别人心碎，你绝对不能修成正果。
There's always a lesson to be learned in the world of dating. For instance, you might be used to internalizing your thoughts and feelings as an introvert
在约会的世界中，总会学到教训。例如，作为一名内向者，你或许习惯了将你的想法和感受内在化
but while dating you'll learn to get better at communicating with your partner and even though that might be difficult at times, it isn't impossible.
但是当你在约会时，你会学到如何更好地和伴侣沟通，即使有时会遇到困难，这并非不可能。
3. Have honest conversations. Don't be afraid to show who you are right from the beginning.
3. 诚实对话。不要害怕从一开始就展现出本来的自己。
As an introvert you value authenticity and depth anyway.
作为一名内向者，你重视真实性和深度。
If you want to skip out on trying to impress others, be honest, have the difficult conversations, ask them if they know where the both of you are headed,
如果你想跳过尝试给对方留下印象这一步的话，就诚实一点，进行深度交谈，问问对方他们是否知道你们要朝着哪个方向前进，
see if the two of you actually have chemistry but also communicate that you're willing to make things work.
看看你们两是否真的有化学反应，但你也要告诉对方你想要得到幸福。
If you're serious about dating, you shouldn't have to worry about waiting for a certain amount of time to pass before responding back to text messages or coming off as desperate or clingy
如果你认真对待约会，你不应该担心回短信或给别人留下急切或粘人印象前的等待
To like someone is to still choose to be with them even on their worst days.
喜欢某个人是选择和他们在一起，哪怕他们经历艰难时期。
4. Only make time for people you're really interested in.
4. 只为你真正感兴趣的人花时间。
Don't date someone because they seem impressive on paper or if there's someone your parents and friends will approve of.
不要因为对方表面上好看或是朋友家人觉得他不错而和他约会。
Ask yourself what you really want in a partner and only make time to meet up with people who you truly believe you are compatible with.
问问自己你想要什么样的伴侣，只和那些你真正相信你们匹配的人花时间见面。
At the end of the day you're the one dating that person not anyone else.
一天下来，你才是那个约会的人，别人代替不了你。
As an introvert you most likely don't like creating conflict and rejecting those you don't think you can have a relationship with,
作为一名内向者，你很可能不喜欢制造冲突和拒绝那些你认为你们没可能的人，
it'll help you be one step closer to finding the right match, additionally don't settle just because you're afraid to be alone.
这样能够让你距离找到真爱更进一步，此外，不要因为害怕孤单而结婚。
5. Keep an open mind this includes dating extroverts who operate in a different way.
5. 保持一颗开放的心，包括和那些行为方式不同的外向者约会。
Who's to say dating someone who's your opposite can't work out. The key word is compromise
谁说和性格相反的人约会是不可能成功的呢。关键是妥协。
As long as you and your partner respect each other's boundaries, there's no real reason as to why things can't work out,
只要你和你的伴侣尊重彼此的界限，就不存在行不通的真正原因，
even if misunderstandings may arise from time to time. That's normal in any relationship.
即使有误解。这在任何一段关系中都是正常的。
Are you an introvert? What helps you in the realm of dating? Feel free to share in the comments below
你是内向者么？是什么帮助你搞定约会的呢？请在下方留言
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